THE
BEST OF THE
OLD
COOT!
A NEW COLLECTION OF
OLD COOT
ESSAYS
The Old Coot & his sister
(in their younger days)
ARTICLES
Originally
PUBLISHED
IN THE TIOGA COUNTY COURIER
Owego, New York
Copyright Ó 2004, Merlin William
Lessler
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be
used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without the written permission of
the author. Printed in the United States of America. For information address:
Front Street Press, 351 Front St., Owego, New York 13827.
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The Best of the Old Coot by
Lessler, Merlin William
FIRST EDITION
November, 2004
INDEX
1 Invasion of the ladder people 1
2 A buy of a lifetime 4
3 Multiply your answer by two 6
4 I take my coffee black 8
5 I don’t get it 10
6 The big shell game 12
7 Did you see that guy’s hair 15
8 Where’s the nearest body shop 17
9 The old coot is a poor sport 20
10 Old coot
throws away his camera 22
11 Old coot
can’t get there from here 25
12 Old coot
thinks he’s pregnant 27
13 Old coot
gets an early Christmas present 30
14 The dog
ate my tax bill 33
15 The old
coot takes the mail for a walk 35
16 Old coot’s
Valentine’s Day tips 37
17 Candy tin
saves old coot from cold hand 39
18 Hush! The
old coot has a long distance call 41
19 Old coot
finds magic on Parker Lane 43
20 The old
coot is wise to the new procedures 45
21 Old coot
won’t answer the phone 47
22 Old coot’s
pants catch on fire 50
23 You’re
fired! 53
24 Old coot
has a tin ear 55
25 Old coot
learns grunt language 57
26 Old coot
doesn’t buy school board’s excuse 59
27 How lazy
are we? 61
28 Old coot
is fenced out 64
29 Old coot
rejects media advice 66
30 See what
you made me do 68
31 Old coot
says “Duh” more and more 70
32 Squirrel
teaches old coot a lesson 73
33 Medical
privacy irks the old coot 75
34 Old coot
takes a dive 78
35 Old coot
goes on the dole 80
36 It’s time
to clean up our language 82
37 Don’t put
the old coot on the “no call” list 84
38 The big
lie – Fast Food 86
INVASION OF THE LADDER PEOPLE
Published 11/27/2002
If
you walk down the pleasant streets of Owego, you’ll notice a proliferation of
ladders leaning against historic clapboard homes. At first blush, you might
think the homeowners of our quaint village are an ambitious lot, tackling one
restoration project or another on their 150 year-old houses. You’d be wrong!
I
stroll through town every morning, on a meandering route to Dunkin Donuts or
the Awakenings Coffee House and back home again, sipping coffee and listening
to Imus on my Walkman. I do an inventory of the projects underway in the
village, mostly looking for techniques to keep my 197 year-old house in good
repair with minimal effort. I’ve learned that the ladders are props, a last
ditch effort by the male occupants of the dwelling against which they lean to
avoid a job that’s been held off for two years or more. And, husbands are not
the only ones guilty of this rouse. Many home repair contractors employ the
same tactic.
Husbands
resort to this “ladder-lean” strategy at the end of a protracted domestic
conversation that goes something like this.
(September)
- “Honey, the east side of the house is starting to peel. Do you think you
should paint it before it gets worse?”
“Yea,
I guess. But, I don’t want to do it till spring. Why have the new paint face
six months of bad weather?”
(April)
– “Honey, are you going to start painting the house?”
“Yea,
but it’s too damp and cold. I’ll get to it when it warms up a little.”
(May)
– “ The weather looks good now honey; are you going to start painting?”
“Yea,
but not till after Memorial Day.”
(June)
– “Honey, Memorial Day has passed. Why don’t you get cooking?”
“
I want to wait till the kids get out of school. The school busses spew out a
ton of diesel soot starting and stopping in the neighborhood; it will ruin the
finish.”
July
– too hot.
August
– too muggy.
September
– after Labor Day.
October
– too cold at night; the paint won’t dry properly.
(May)
– “Honey, the house is a disgrace! The paint is coming off in bushel
basketsful. I’m embarrassed to go out and get the mail!”
“I’m
on it babe. I just need a few weeks to figure out what supplies I’ll need to
get it done. You don’t want me to do a slap-shod job do you?”
(June)
– “Honey, the kids can’t play in the yard anymore and there are so many paint
chips on the lawn that the dog refuses to leave the house. Are you going to
paint the house or do I have to call a professional?”
“I’m
starting it this weekend. Jeesh, give me a break, would you!”
On
Saturday a ladder gets placed against the east side of the building. The
project has officially begun, but other than setting up the ladder, no actual
work has taken place. A new line of dialog begins; the ladder buys another year
of inaction, two if the husband is a clever old coot.
A
similar exchange takes place between homeowners and home-improvement
contractors, but the game is initiated with a sign, not a ladder. The second
the contractor gets the job he puts his sign in front of the house, announcing,
“Another quality remodeling job by Cracker-Jack & Sons Inc.” The sign is
the only activity for two months, in spite of twenty heated phone calls from
the homeowner. Then, the ladder ploy is used; followed a month later by
scaffolding and miscellaneous equipment. At the peak of the conflict, the
contractor arranges for lumber to be delivered, usually in a manner that blocks
the driveway. This trick is designed to prevent the homeowner from hiring a new
contractor. It takes two letters from an attorney before a single board is cut.
The job then goes forward in spurts: three days of intense activity, two weeks
of no activity, sixteen angry phone calls, and a repeat of the pattern until
completion.
There are many variations of this
construction-delaying tactic: blue tarps on roofs, an “X” taped on a broken
window, three rows of new siding installed; it’s running rampant in many towns
across America. Psychologists call it “male performance deficiency syndrome.” I
call it, “The Invasion of the Ladder People.” Take a walk through your town.
You’ll see what I mean.
A
BUY OF A LIFETIME!
Published 12/25/2002
The
other day my son was getting ready for school. He was trying to squeeze into an
old pair of sneakers, but not having much luck getting his size 7 foot into his
size 5 sneaker. I asked him why he was wearing those old things; he has at
least three newer pairs.
“They’re
my favorite. I just found them in the back of my closet while I was looking for
something.”
I
loosened up the laces for him, starting at the bottom, and somehow, he managed
to get them on. He was smiling and happy, as though he rediscovered an old
friend, which he had. We all have clothes like that. Things we just love. They
feel right. They make us feel good about ourselves. Usually my wife won’t let
me wear mine.
“How
old are those things?” I asked him.
“Mom
bought them last summer. They’re almost a year old.”
It
started me thinking. “He thinks sneakers he got a year ago are old. Wait
till he gets to be my age, then he’ll know what old clothes really are.” I
looked down at the sweater I had on. It’s dark blue, has a yellow X across the
front, red, white & blue nautical flags on each side, the word “navigator”
sweeps in a white arch across the chest area and the left sleeve has yellow
& red anchor on it. It’s 100% cotton. My daughter Amy bought it for herself
at a Tommy Hilfiger outlet store when she was a freshman in college. She gave
it too me after months of looking for it and finding it hidden in my bottom
dresser drawer under three layers of sweaters and sweatshirts. That was eight
years ago.
Next,
I looked down at my feet. I had on a pair of “dusty bucks.” I bought them in
Maine, on a trip I took, six years ago. I started to realize that all my
“stuff” was ancient. “Hell, I’ve got boxer shorts older than my son.”
I’m
not an old coot who wears the same thing everyday, a fashion flashback to the
past. Well maybe a little, but I do buy new clothes every year. Everything I
have on, as I write this, is less than six months old, except for my sneakers.
They’ve become an old friend that I save for when I go for a speed walk or a
run. I’ve had them for three years and I suspect they will be around for a few
more. I guess, that a chronological inventory of my wardrobe would be like a
walk through history.
I
own a pair of LL Bean rubber boots that I bought in 1987. They get a ride on my
feet when it snows and I have to shovel the driveway and sidewalk, but not more
often than that. They look brand new, which they are, in old coot years, so I
expect to have them as long as I live. And that’s the point. Most of what I buy
will be a lifetime purchase. That thought hits me like a sledgehammer, but it’s
true. I’m not outgrowing anything, though if I don’t get my willpower under
control when facing a Sunday night pizza, I might need something new; something
with an elastic waistband. I don’t wear anything out anymore, and a lot of
stuff, like suits, ties and dress shirts, are seldom worn, so why replace them?
The linen suit I bought for my daughter Wendy’s wedding nine years ago has been
out of the closet on only three occasions. The tux next to it gets an airing
once a year, on a cruise, though last year I left it home. All my closet
“friends” are like that. They will be with me till I die, even though I expect
that event to be delayed till I’m well over 100. Old coots never die. They
don’t even fade away. They just hang around forever wearing 30-year-old oxford
cloth button down collar shirts, pleated kakis, loafers or buck shoes, yellow
rain coats, black overcoats and never a hat, having learned from, and been
inspired by John F Kennedy, the first president to attend his inauguration
ceremony, bareheaded.
I’d
better be careful about what I buy. It’s going to last me a lifetime.
MULTIPLY YOUR ANSWER BY TWO
Published 2/19/2003
I can remember how long it took
for a week to go by when I was a kid waiting for Christmas. It took a year.
Today, a year goes by in what seems like a week. It’s one of the things that
comes with being an old coot. This distorted sense of judgment affects
everything I try to measure or estimate, not just time. I’ve learned to
compensate for it by multiplying my answer by two.
We needed a new roof for the
house. I figured it would be about $5,000 dollars. My wife reminded me I always
lowball my estimates. She was right, so I put a figure of $10,000 in my head
and then called a roofing contractor. He came in with a figure of $9,300 and
got the job. Had I not multiplied my answer by two, I probably would have
thought the estimate outrageous and put off getting it done for another year.
“How old is the dog?” my son
asks. “Just a pup, is my first inclination, can’t be more than two or three,” I
say to myself, and then remember to multiply by two. “Six,” I reply. My answers
to questions of this sort are delayed like those of reporters on the other side
of the world when the question asked by the evening news anchor is transmitted
via satellite. They stand there with a dumb look on their face waiting to hear
the question. I stand there with a dumb look on my face waiting for my brain to
multiply the answer by two. That’s why old coots always look like their mind is
someplace else.
I’ve found the
rule keeps me looking pretty sharp with my younger friends; they haven’t
figured out that their sense of time and their ability to estimate is out of
adjustment.
“Remember that
trip we took to Myrtle Beach to play golf three years ago?” my friend Don asks.
“I sure do, but
it was five years ago,” I respond with precise accuracy.
“Really? He
comes back. I would have sworn it was just a couple of years ago.”
“No, (I close
the noose). It was the year you turned forty. You’re forty five now aren’t
you?”
“You’re right!
You’re right!”
His multiplier isn’t 2; it’s about 1.6. It
will grow to 2 in a few more years, and then I’ll let him in on the secret. My
multiplier will probably be 3 by then.
The formula works with just about
everything, not just how much things cost or how long ago something happened.
It works when I try to figure out how long it will take to do something: paint
the ceiling, run to the store to get a carton of milk, mow the lawn. It will
always be twice what I think. Unfortunately, it applies to unpleasant things as
well, making them twice as bad as I figured. Going to the dentist hurts twice
as much as I expect. Sore muscles hurt worse and take twice as long get better
than I expect. Sitting in the car waiting for my wife to come out of the store
takes three times as long. Oops, maybe it’s time to change the formula!
The only situation I’ve found
where the multiplier doesn’t apply is when I’m cooking. If I make spaghetti,
and measure the amount of noodles I think I need, and then double it (which is
another way of saying, multiply it by 2, DUH!), I always end up with twice as
much as I need. So now when I cook, I don’t use the multiplier, unless we are
having company and I chicken out and double the ingredients. Then I have to try
to talk everyone into eating like a pig. It doesn’t work. They have their own
multiplier that forces them to eat ½ of what an old coot serves.
I take my coffee black
Published 5/21/2003
I walk to town for coffee every morning. Some days I go to
Dunkin Donut’s, a franchise owed by my friend Bill Nolis. Other days I go to
the Awakening Coffeehouse. Bill’s coffee is my favorite, but the place is not
conducive to writing. Awakenings Coffeehouse, with its comfortable couches,
café tables and antique booths, is perfect for my needs, but the coffee, though
excellent, scares me a little. I order regular coffee, something only old coots
order; most of their customers prefer something from the eclectic selection of
beverages listed on the immense wall mural menu. To give you an idea of how far
out of step I am with Darcy’s typical customer (Darcy York owns the place),
these are the choices listed on the wall: 9 blends of coffee, 5 herbal teas, 14
black teas, 9 green teas, 14 variations of espresso, including something called
honey-almond-latte with whip cream, 27 European sodas and 14 other miscellaneous
drinks, such as caramel hot cider. She also has a large selection of bottled
waters.
Now, in I come, a cheapskate who orders a cup of regular
coffee and hogs a table for an hour, writing and making a general mess of
things. It stretches the retailer-customer relationship to the limit. I don’t
care; it’s one of the benefits of being an old coot.
Now back to my story. I took a detour today after I picked
up my coffee. I walked across the new Owego Bridge. It’s not quite finished and
there’s an orange plastic fence blocking the way, but I crossed it anyhow. I’m
just like everybody else around here, tired of waiting. I told the foreman two
weeks ago I was going to do it. He just laughed. It was a day or two after I’d
interviewed him for an article for the “Courier.” I had tried to get him to
take a challenge from Bruce Nelson, owner of the Jailhouse Restaurant. Bruce
bet that his new restaurant would open before the bridge. The foreman laughed
at that too. He told me I’d get hurt if I walked across the bridge. He was
wrong.
I didn’t get hurt. In fact it was one of the most pleasant
walks I’ve ever taken. The darn thing is beautiful. They’re putting the
finishing touches on the south end: antique metal light poles, iron fencing,
granite curbs. It really looks classy. The view of the village as you come into
it will knock your socks off. You’d swear you’re looking at a Norman Rockwell
picture. The Court House is perfectly centered between the street light poles.
It’s been a long wait and I know a lot of people wanted the old structure
replaced in kind, but I think everyone will be impressed with this one. I know
the Old Coot is.
The old iron bridge is gone; it’s time to get over it, to
move on. A lot of things change, just like the coffee scene. Back in the old
days, “Real men drank their coffee black. Now they order honey almond latté
with a dollop of whipped cream and a dash of cinnamon. I know, because I’m
forced to wait patiently behind them in line.
My introduction to coffee was in
my grandmother’s kitchen. I was six and forbidden to drink coffee. In the age
tradition, my grandmother ignored my parent’s wishes and plied all 14 of her
grandchildren with our first taste of coffee. She always had a pot going on her
cast iron stove. She poured half a cup into an ironstone mug for me and then
added cream while I shoveled in spoonfuls of sugar. She showed me how to pour
it into the saucer to cool. Sometimes I sipped it from the saucer and sometimes
she poured it back into the cup. Those memories are magic, even though I didn’t
really like the taste of her coffee.
When I grew up my taste changed and I began drinking
coffee. It was the adult thing to do. I had mine with cream and sugar, but when
I was told, “Real men drank their coffee black,” I weaned myself from the
sugar. I never could give up the cream. I guess that makes me half-a-man. Image
that, an old coot and half-a man. I don’t care. I walked across the new bridge
today. Did you?
I DON’T GET
IT!
Published 7/02/2003
We (my wife and
I) drove down Front Street Friday to cross the new bridge “legally” for the
first time. I use the “We” word because that’s the way it is. My hands are on
the wheel; my feet on the pedals, but she’s doing most of the driving. “Slow
down! Watch out for the car coming up behind us! You can’t turn here!” I’m
simply an instrument placed between her and the controls of the vehicle. It’s
affected my driving skills. I get used to her advice and instruction and become
less attentive to what’s going on. I’m fine when I’m alone except for
hieroglyphic road signs. I just don’t get them.
When we came to
the corner of Front & Court I got confused by some new signs. The uppermost
information was OK: Rte 17 to the left, Rte 96 to the right and so forth, but
lower down the pole was a picture of a truck with a slash through it;
underneath it was an arrow pointing to the sky. I didn’t get it; when I see a
traffic sign like this I never do. Should I be watching for falling trucks? Are
trucks going to tip over at the corner? What’s the deal with trucks here? Two
weeks ago it was a left arrow with a slash through it that messed me up. My
brain told my hands it was perfectly OK to turn the wheel to the left. When I
did, my wife screamed, “STOP, didn’t you see the no-left-turn sign?” I didn’t.
If the sign was in English, and said, “NO LEFT TURN,” I might have.
I do get it,
eventually, but never fast enough. Maybe it’s the fault of the elementary
school I went to. Cross outs were not allowed; we couldn’t put a slash through
anything. If we made a mistake we had to do the whole paper over. Even erasing
was frowned on. It earned us a reduced grade with a note next to the mark
saying, “Minus ten points for sloppy work.” The final product was to be error
free. In high school the teachers were somewhat more liberal; they tolerated
cross-outs, but I did mine by covering the error with a solid rectangle of
black ink; I didn’t want to reveal to the teacher how stupid a mistake I’d
made.
I never use
slash marks to cross something out. It’s taboo. Kids today don’t have that
problem. When I look at my son’s school papers I’m not even sure what language
he’s using. Words are misspelled, the paper is so thin from repeated erasures
that you can see right through it; entire paragraphs are crossed out and
scribbled over. At the top of this sloppy mess is the grade, next to a note
from the teacher that says, “Nice job.”
Nice job? Maybe
she meant to write Nice Job.
Graphic road
signs began to appear in New York State in the 1960’s, when the State Commerce
Department decided to be tourist friendly to French speaking vacationers from
Quebec. It wasn’t a problem at first, because they only put graphics on
non-critical signs, like the ones that let drivers know if food or lodging was
available at the upcoming exit. A picture of a plate centered between a knife
& fork, for example, was added to the standard sign; the words remained.
It’s still that way for food, lodging and gas; both words and symbols are used.
Unfortunately,
symbols, not words, are used on many of the
signs that have life and death consequences today: No Left Turn, No Right
Turn, No U-Turn, One Way, to name a few. It’s sort of the same thing on my
computer. It too, is loaded with images (icons) that, “I don’t get!” It’s
amazing that I was able to type this up.
Some day when
I’m cruising around town, and my wife isn’t with me to interpret the signs,
I’ll turn at a right arrow with a slash across it and wake up two days later in
the hospital encased in a body cast, my arms and legs held up by cables. If I
look down and see a smiley face on the cast someplace I’m going to scream. As
soon as I get better I’ll get a pen and put a big slash right across it. Let’s
see if the hospital staff gets it. Humbug!
The big shell game
Published 7/23/03
Tioga County Legislators
are considering an increase in the sales tax. It might go up by a penny; it
might go up by half a penny. It doesn’t sound like much when they put it in
terms of a penny, but us old coots can “do the math.” The County tax rate will
go up 29% if they raise it a penny. The state is kicking up their rate as well.
In fact, the state gave the idea to the County, “If they can do it why can’t
we?” I just hope the County doesn’t follow the lead of the state and get into
the gambling business.
New York State
has become a 53,989 square mile gambling casino. “The money will go directly
for education,” was the promise legislators made when they took over the
number’s game from organized crime. One day gambling was immoral, illegal and
bad for us. The next day, after the assembly and the governor enacted the
lottery bill, it was transformed into a sacred government institution. That was
over twenty years ago; the money doesn’t go to education. That promise was a
big shell game using trick accounting with the state budget. The money pumps up
the general fund, more commonly know as the pork barrel. Worse yet, the State
numbers game has created a growing population of liars.
“How’d you do
on Quick Draw tonight?” (Quick Draw is an electronic numbers game that the
state operates in bars. Every four minutes a new set of numbers is selected.
“I did great, I
won,” is the standard answer (lie).
The truth is
the bettor hit on one game in ten tries; he spent twenty bucks and got back
five. The twenty is never subtracted from the winnings to arrive at the net
gain. It’s the same kind of bookkeeping that Enron used, before they
collapsed.
Everybody I
know is a “winner.” It drives me crazy. When I get gas at a mini-mart I
invariable get trapped in line behind a New York gambler. The place even looks
like a casino. Several dozen rolls of scratch-off games dangle enticingly from
reels behind and to the side of the register. Two lottery computers hog the
rest of the counter. Joe “Gambler” holds a wad of betting slips. The clerk runs
them through the computer to determine how much he “won.” It always seems to be
twelve bucks.
“Do you want
cash?” asks the cashier.
“No, I’m going
to parlay it into a new car,” chuckles Joe.
“Give me six
lotteries and two dailies. Box the corners, make two quick picks and play 11’s
and 26’s on the rest.”
“Ok, here you
go sir. That comes to twenty-four dollars.”
“Wait a minute,
Joe replies, pulling a twenty from his pocket to join his twelve dollars in
“winnings.” I don’t want change. Give me two “Clown” scratch-offs, two
“Midnight Riders.” How much do I have left?”
“$4,” replies
the clerk.
“OK, give me
four birthday tickets, mine’s coming up this year.”
Finally it’s my
turn; I just want to pay for gas and get back on the road, but I have to put up
with addicts like “Joe” every time I enter one of these disguised betting
parlors.
I hear someone
ask Joe how he did, as he heads for the door.
“Great. I won
twelve bucks!”
I have to
admit, I’m hooked too. I lay out five bucks on Quick Draw every few weeks. I
usually lose. Unfortunately, most people I see playing the numbers are addicted
big time. Watching them lose is what keeps me out of trouble. The average
better in New York spends $15 a day. That’s the average. A lot of money wasted,
but even worse, the gamblers put all their eggs in the “get rich quick” basket.
They aren’t taking courses at night school. They aren’t learning a new trade so
they can get a better job. And they certainly aren’t saving their spare change
for a rainy day. They are betting their future happiness and well being on a
one in a million chance to win the lottery.
The politicians
have created an endless pool of gamblers to keep the pork barrel full and there
is no end in sight. Millions of dollars are pumped into advertising, converting
average hard working citizens into candidates for gamblers anonymous. I hope
Tioga County never joins in on the big shell game. They need the cash, but we
don’t need more betting parlors. I’m not sure it would get them much money anyhow.
There are a lot of us old coots around here who know there isn’t a pea under
any of the shells, no matter who is running the game.
Did you see that guy’s hair?
Published 8/13/2003
“Did you see
that guy’s hair?” Not a week goes by that I don’t whisper this question into my
wife’s ear. It usually involves a guy wearing a bad toupee; one so awful it
seems a raccoon has taken up residence on his head. It’s the only thing you see
when you look at him. He could have three arms and four legs, but all you see
is the rug. It flashes like a beacon, “I’M A WIG, I’M A WIG, I’M A REAL BAD
WIG.” It takes superhuman restraint to not just grab it and throw it across the
room. Seinfeld called these ridiculous
looking things, “Hair Hats,” on his insightful, long running sitcom. But, it’s
not just hair hats that get my attention. We have a real hair problem in this
country.
Politicians
lead the way. There is a direct connection between a man’s balding problem and
a need to garner assurance of his worth from the public, from strangers, ala
the election process - the longer the comb-over the greater the need. These
guys either have a sweeping hairstyle that starts behind the ear, climbs to the
top of their heads and then swirls to rest in a nest that mimics a yarmulke or
they have a massive, thick, fussed over, head of hair. Too much hair, or too
little hair is what drives men to seek election to congress, i.e. Gary Condits
with his blow-dried mane. You remember him, the guy who had an affair with an
intern and then couldn’t remember anything when the police investigated her
disappearance. Maybe all that blow-drying affected his memory. It sure messed
up his moral integrity. Look these guys over real close when they make the
rounds on the Sunday morning talk shows. You’ll see what I mean. Most of them
have a “hair situation.”
The Hollywood
set is even worse. The young guys have a “tussled” look. They use it to portray
an image of zero vanity. “Look at me. I don’t even bother to comb my hair!”
Their credibility ebbs when you see the exact same, messed up look every time
they appear on the screen. You soon realize that somebody, probably a personal
stylist, arranges the tangles to capture the perfect, “I just got out of bed,”
look. The older guys, Ted Dansen and Burt Reynolds to name two, backed off the
comb-over and bought wigs, but not cheap, hair hat varieties. Their wigs look
more natural than the real thing. My hat is off to them for being persistent
enough to get it right. I wonder why Donald Trump doesn’t do the same. His
forehead comb-over is among the worst I’ve ever seen. He doesn’t just parade
around in private he flaunts it on my TV screen, doing ads for Burger King.
And, that’s another thing. Why does the richest guy in New Jersey need to work
part time, peddling hamburgers? for spending money?
I salute the
guys who take it all off, who drop the comb-over and go au-naturel from the
neck up. Mayor Guliani, for one. Now that he’s stopped gluing his sideburns to
the top of his head, he looks great. I bet his vote tally will go up if he runs
for office again, especially if it’s against a “hair hat.”
Some people claim this hair thing
started in the 60’s when it was the “crew cuts” versus the “long hairs,” the
responsible citizens versus the anything goes hippies. Forty years later the
symbolism is reversed. Now the longer haired, male members of society are the
conservative crowd, and the crew cut/shaved heads are the anything goes crowd.
But, it didn’t start in the 1960’s; it’s been going on forever. I’m sure the
first caveman politician had a comb-over; his probably started on his back and
wound to the top of his head. And, look at the founders of our country. They
pranced around in powdered wigs, debating the fine points of the constitution.
I’m afraid our fate will forever be in the hands of leaders with comb-overs,
hair hats, puffy bouffants and other hair situations. If you want to spot an
up-and-comer, don’t look to his record, look to his hairline.
WHERE’S THE NEAREST BODY SHOP?
Published 10/01/2003
I’m jealous of my 13 year-old
son. There, I’ve said it; now I feel better. I first became aware of it on a
trip to Myrtle Beach. We stopped at a rest area every 100 miles. That’s my
limit between bathroom stops, something I attribute to the coffee I drink while
driving, not my aging plumbing facilities. He only got out of the car at every
other stop. He has a 200-mile bladder. We went into the men’s room together; he
left in eight seconds, washed his hands, used the electric blow dryer (which we
all know takes forever), went back to the car to get some money, came back to
the rest area and bought a soda, picked up a state map, went back to the car to
check the tire pressure, cleaned out the garbage and then came back into the
men’s room and asked,
“Ready to go, Dad?”
“Just a minute son, I’ll be right
with you, “ was my reply, though a lie.
Finally, we walked back to the
car. That’s when it dawned on me that I was jealous of my own son. He has a
body that functions at 100%, I don’t. Little by little, over the next few days
I couldn’t help but notice how much better his body functioned than mine.
We played a little basketball,
not, one-on-one, just a simple game of HORSE. He’s an ace shooter, but I can
usually beat him with weird shots I perfected many decades ago. My favorite is
a backwards, set-shot. I once could face away from the net, bend backwards far
enough to eyeball the rim, and shoot; swish! I no longer can bend back far
enough to see the rim; now the shot is based on memory, not aim, and it shows.
It only goes in every four tries. I also used had a nice half-court jump shot
that was good for giving an “H” or an “O” to any opponent. Not any more. My
jumping ability has ebbed to a level where I have trouble getting in the air
high enough to clear the layer of paint that marks the foul line, which is
about where I now shoot my jump shot from; my arm strength is no longer
sufficient to propel the ball from half court. I desperately need some new
trick shots. I’m getting tired of losing.
And it’s not just my bladder, arm
muscles and flexibility that are deteriorating; my whole darn body is falling
apart. And I take care of it. I swim twice a week, speed walk, jog and take
long bike rides. I walk to town and back several times a day. But still, it’s
slipping away. In my head, I’m eighteen, but only in my head. The rest of the
vehicle is heading for the scrap heap. Having a twelve-year-old around to
compare things to makes it much worse.
For example – When my son gets a
cold he goes off to school without a care in the world. He wouldn’t think of
staying home. When he gets back, he doesn’t rest up on the couch or go to his
room; he heads outside to shoot baskets, or down the street to play a game of
pick-up football. I, on the other hand, drag myself around the drug store
purchasing armloads of miracle drugs, hoping against hope that one of them will
work. Then I head for the recliner, wallowing in discomfort, and I suppose,
self-pity, begging for the cold hand of death to relieve me of my agony. In comes
my son.
“Dad, wanna take a walk around
the block before dinner?”
“Sure,” I respond, thinking I
will have a captive audience to tell how bad I feel.
There are other subtle
differences that are more noticeable with him around to compare to. When he
cuts his hand, it heals in a day or two. I still have a scab three weeks later.
When I get up at six in the morning I desperately need a pre-lunch nap. We can
only get him to bed at gunpoint. Sleep to me is a friend, to him, a mortal
enemy. Even a suntan affects me differently. His is gone after two weeks of
fall weather. He has a skin replacement system that works. My tan is still
around in January. Half of the time when I go to the YMCA, one of the guys in
the locker room asks me if I’ve been to Florida recently. “Yes,” I lie.
We usually have pizza for dinner
on Sunday. My wife will eat a slice; my son will limit himself to two. He has
too large an array of high quality snacks lined up for Sunday night to let
pizza interfere with his feast. That leaves me with three-quarters of a large
pie. I once could limit myself to two slices, but for some reason my pizza
willpower has gone the way of the rest of my physical attributes, to heck in a
hand basket. I have one slice - then another - then one more - then half of
another – “Oh what the heck, I’ll eat the rest; no sense in throwing it out.
But that’s not the end of it. The mass settles into a huge bowling ball sized
lump with six kicking legs in my belly; it thrashes around in there for the
rest of the night. I always end up in agony, inhaling Rolaids and moaning like
a cow that hasn’t been milked for two days. I go to bed promising myself to
never, ever, do that again, knowing full well, that next Sunday night, I’ll be
right back at it.
All my friends are facing the
same thing, but they’re getting new parts. They have bulging disks yanked from
between lumbar vertebrae, new knee and hip joints installed, roto-rooters run
through the arteries in their hearts, tummy tucks, face lifts, hair transplants
and lipo-suction. Here I sit trying to fight nature on my own.
“Oh the heck with it. Where’s the
nearest body shop?”
The Old Coot is a Poor Sport
Published 11/05/2003
I went to the
movies the other night. No, not at the movie theatre; I went to the middle
school auditorium. It’s something you have to do if your kid wants to play
sports. The auditorium wasn’t full, but almost. I sat next to a guy who claimed
to have seen the film (video, actually) twelve times. “Wow, I thought. This
must be good!” It wasn’t. The athletic director introduced it after welcoming
us to the meeting. It’s mandatory for the kids and highly recommended for the
parents. The lights dimmed and three TV screens filled with the identical
image, a nerdy guy in a corduroy jacket, a brown plaid shirt and a black and
green striped tie. He explained the deal to us, gave us the facts on sports.
“Your son or daughter may be injured playing sports. We do the best we can, buy
the recommended safety gear, but your kid may get injured, could even die,
although that is rare.” I was surprised. I had no idea a kid running full speed
with a football could get hurt when he crashed head on into a player coming
from the opposite direction.
He went on to
tell us that each sport had rules, that the kids should follow the rules if
he/she wanted to be successful. Again, I was flabbergasted. I had no idea; no
wonder I kept fouling out when I played basketball in 7th grade. If
only this guy was around back then.
He wrapped up
his comments by telling us how to behave at an athletic contest, “Never yell at
the officials, or tell them that they’ve made a mistake. They do the best they
can; it’s a hard job; they will make a miscall now and then.” I looked around
the room. I recognized a lot of the parents. I’d seen them at little league,
soccer, basketball and lacrosse games for years. We all yell at the officials.
We never thought it was a bad thing. We were just helping them out, making sure
they got it right the next time. I guess they’re on their own now.
He instructed
us not to yell at the players on our team or the opponent’s team. Now I knew I
was in trouble. I always yell at the kids, just like the rest of the parents.
He told us it wasn’t good for their self-esteem. “They are trying their best.”
No they’re not; that’s why we yell at them. He said we shouldn’t yell at the
coaches either. (I guess they have self esteem issues too) I’m guilty of this.
I yell at the coach when he keeps most of the team on the bench while the “A”
team plays the whole game. They end up exhausted, blow the lead and lose then
in the last few minutes. I yell at him when he makes a mistake I think he’d
want to know about, like sending in six kids to start a basketball game or
forgetting to have a goalie in a soccer match. Now what am I going to do? I
know deep down he needs my help.
The meeting
ended after we signed a log proving we’d seen the movie. We had to promise to
read through three stacks of rules, regulations and school policies and return
a fistful of signed documents attesting to the fact that we understood what we
read and would obey the rules. The athletic director said that every school
system in the state holds this meeting three times a year, at the start of each
sporting season. I assume he meant that the parent of every athlete in the
state was dragged into the school to be grilled about this “theoretical” world
of sports where the players follow the rules and the parents sit in the
bleachers complementing the officials on a fine job. I guess they have no choice.
Professional athletes and coaches don’t provide a good example for kids. They
yell, fight and dispute every call that goes against them. They spit, swear and
never accept blame. But I’m concerned that if the kids don’t learn in the same
environment they’ll never get a chance to play professional sports. It’s why
I’m going to see if my wife will sign the papers. Then I can be the
“designated” yeller. It’s a tough job, but somebody’s got to do it.
Old coot throws away his camera
Published 12/03/2003
Thanksgiving
has come and gone. It’s a great holiday; you don’t have to buy anything, it’s
Ok to eat yourself into a coma and you are allowed to stagger into the living
room after dinner and plop down in front of the TV to watch football in spite
of having a house full of company. The only problem with Thanksgiving is the
pictures. People like to capture holidays on film. That’s when the trouble
begins.
There was a
time when family picture collections would fit in a single album. You can see
samples of these treasures at antique shops and flea markets. Today’s families
take more pictures on a weekend than our ancestors took in an entire
generation. They arrive home from vacations and holidays with actual pictures,
thanks to the one-hour photo centers all over the place. They never experience
the joy of finding a 5-year-old roll of undeveloped film and the thrill of
discovering what’s on it. Today’s couples order double sets of prints; one for
the official collection and one to take on the road, to show to their
unfortunate friends and relatives. My favorite one is the picture of two feet.
It seems to come in every roll, shot while the photographer was checking the
camera.
Pictures used
to be a treasure, a moment in time captured forever. Today, they are a nuisance,
not only to the family who has to stage and pose for every event on their
vacation, holiday or birthday celebration, but to the rest of us, who are
subjected to mandatory “ooh and aah” sessions when cornered and handed a stack
of 3 by 5 glossies. Oh what a nightmare!
Blame it on
George Eastman who invented the Kodak “Brownie,” an inexpensive and easy to use
camera. The family album began to plump after that, but still managed to hold a
generation of memories between two covers. Along came Edwin Herbert Land with a
new invention, the Polaroid Camera, instant pictures. The die was cast. Western
civilization started to bury itself in a sea of celluloid. Sociologists claim
that pictures are taking over all unused storage space in American homes and are
the primary reason for the proliferation of self-storage yards going up all
over the country. Psychologists insist that the excessive picture taking in our
society is a reaction to high stress in people’s lives. It drives them to
capture their fleeting moments of fun on film, lest they slip away, unnoticed.
I don’t know what the cause is. I just know I spend a lot of time avoiding
people who approach me with a wad of pictures in their hand.
It’s not just
amateur photographers who are out of hand; professionals are even worse. Been
to a wedding lately? The reception starts three hours after the wedding ends.
Guests are forced to kill time between the two events. Why? So photographers
can take “candid” shots of the wedding, reenacting each ritual, without the
nuisance of the invited guests. The “second” wedding takes longer than the
original ceremony. Then the wedding party is whisked away to the bride’s house,
the park where the couple first met, the restaurant where “he” proposed, to
record those events as well, in still life and video. The bride & groom
aren’t in charge, the parents paying the bills aren’t in charge, the
photographer rules the day. As I sit at the reception, watching the happy
couple reenact the cutting of the cake, their first dance as a married couple,
the garter & bouquet throwing ritual, I’m not focused on their happy day,
I’m trying to figure out how to never, ever, get invited to their house and be
subjected to a six-hour photo review session of an event I saw first hand.
PC’s and
digital cameras are delivering the deathblow. They’ve tripled the proliferation
of pictures. I’ve thrown my camera away, my camcorder too. It’s a rare picture
that comes with the smudge of my thumbprint in the upper right corner. I
stopped the madness when our family album became a ten-volume set, not counting
the unsorted pictures that fill two drawers in the file cabinet.
I’ve also discovered that looking
back at images of myself is a painful experience. There I am on page 23 of
volume II, a thirty-two-year-old father pushing a four-year-old on a swing.
This person’s bladder is strong, it can last the night, his knees don’t creak
and his legs can hold up for a 5-mile jog. His hair is thick and shinny, his
eyes focus on the printed page without need of direct sunlight or 10-foot arms.
I hate looking at that guy. He deserted me years ago, why would I want to see a
picture of him?
Old Coot can’t get there from here!
Published 12/10/2003
If you walk around the village
like I do, you know that a lot of people stop and ask directions. Somehow,
we’ve hidden our main attractions. Many of them ask for help getting to the
high school. It’s the biggest complex in town, but the hardest to find. I tell
them to take Route 96 to the second or third street after the railroad
overpass, take a left and then look for it on the right. I can never remember
the street name. “It’s just past that house with junk all over the front yard.
You can’t miss it,” I say. The same shortcoming applies to knowing right from left.
“Did I tell that guy to turn right or left at the third street after the
railroad bridge,” is the question that haunts me as he pulls away from the
curb? When a car stops and asks how to
get to the middle school I really go nuts. There is no way to explain to a
stranger how to get there. I lie; I tell them we don’t have a middle school, or
I look at them in puzzlement and reply, “No speaka de Englise.” I often do the
same thing when they ask about the Little League field and the swimming pool.
I really got thrown for a loop
the other day. I was on Main Street in front of the Chemung Canal Trust
Company. A car pulled over and asked me how to get to Tommy O’Hara’s
Restaurant. This was an easy one; it was two doors from where I stood. “Right
there,” I said, and pointed to the restaurant sign.
“No, No, the guy in the car
responded. I know where it is, but how do I get to the parking lot in back so I
can park the car?”
“Turn here,” I responded,
pointing to the alleyway between the bank and the building next to Tom’s. It
was then that I noticed the two brand new
“Do Not Enter” signs, guarding the driveway like sentries at a military
base. I turned back to the driver and said, “No speak de Englise,” and quickly
moved down the street.
Later in the day I returned to
the scene of the crime. I needed to figure out how to get to Tommy’s
restaurant. I never know when I’ll be overcome with an urge for one of his
fantastic white pizzas with onions and sausage. I started my investigation at
the bank. I knew they were installing a set of drive-up windows. I’d assumed
that cars would come in from Main Street, circle into the teller windows and
then exit back onto Main, but I was wrong. The lane was restricted to a single
width and designated an exit. I circled the block to a driveway next to the
VFW, but that’s private. I turned onto Church and came to another driveway, but
it’s an exit; you can’t go in that way. When I reached the driveway on Temple
Street between the police station and John’s Fine Foods I found an answer to
the dilemma, a large sign that said “Fanny C. Hyde Parking lot” with an “enter
here” arrow. I didn’t know the parking lot had a name until that moment. This
is the approved entrance to the parking lot behind O’Hara’s Restaurant.
I turned onto North Street to
finish my circle of the block. I observed two more entrances to the parking
lot: the first is the driveway to John’s parking lot; the second is an alleyway
to the now closed Lynn’s Drugstore’s, drive in window. It’s too narrow for
today’s SUV’s and is blocked by an angry mob of pigeons.
I stopped to see Tommy O’Hara as
I finished my walk around the block, to ask him what he thought of the new
ingress and egress pattern (one way in, three ways out). I was also hoping he
might have a leftover slice of white pizza. He listened to me for a minute,
reached down into the sink and started washing a glass and looked me straight
in the eye and said, “No speaka de Englise.”
The old coot thinks he’s pregnant!
Published
12/17/2003
I went to the
doctor the other day. It was time for my bi-annual check-up. Some people go
every year; I go every other year. It’s just too much work to go more often
than that. It used to be simple; you’d call the receptionist and make an
appointment. Now, when you call the office, you get an electronic receptionist
who makes you push so many different phone buttons that your fingers become too
sore to make it through the on your first try: “Do you want a prescription
renewed? Do you want to change a scheduled appointment? Do you want to leave a
message for the doctor? Are you having chest pains?” - on, and on, and on, it
goes. You have to endure a litany of
queries before you are told which button to push to talk to a real person. The
system works; half the time I hang up.
Anyhow, I
finally did secure an appointment and ended up in a huge waiting room that
served an army of physicians: pediatricians, gynecologists, and internal
medicine specialists. I sat down on a plastic sofa and picked up a November
1999 issue of “Newsweek.” I started reading an interesting article about the
upcoming presidential election between Gore and Bush. A young woman plopped
down next to me. She landed with a thud and then released a sigh so loud I
thought a hot air balloon had collapsed in the room. I looked over at her and
asked, “What’s the matter?”
“What’s the
matter? You want to know what’s the matter! Take a good look at me. I look like
a snake that’s swallowed a beach ball. I’m pregnant, overdue and exasperated;
that’s what’s the matter!”
I knew I’d
stepped into it, but I kept on anyhow, “I know you feel bad, but it will be
over soon.”
“I know it
will,” she replied, a little less frazzled than when she first sat down. “But,
a person shouldn’t have to go through this.”
She described
how bad things were, how hard it was to get up from the couch; she has to turn
around and push up off the back of the sofa and stagger to her feet. I could
sympathize with her. It’s exactly how I get up when my back is hurting, which
is most of the time.
She said she
couldn’t go anyplace without stopping at a rest room; the baby was pushing into
her bladder with such force that it barely holds anything. I could dig it! I
have the same problem. I know where every bathroom is within a 100-mile radius
of my house. I’ve created a rating system for stores by how close their
restrooms are to the front door: “10” for Wal-Mart, where it’s in the main
lobby, “2” for Home Depot, where it’s way in the back. I’ve been thinking of
publishing a set of maps for old coots. They’d be exactly like Rand McNally’s
except they would show where all the restrooms are located.
I’d opened
Pandora’s box in the waiting room; she went on and on with how bad it was.
She can’t sleep
through the night. Me neither.
She can’t turn
over in bed. I last did it a few years ago, but I don’t even try anymore.
She’s so fat
that none of her clothes fit. Mine don’t either. I’ve switched to the –
“don’t tuck in the shirt look.”
It’s almost
impossible for her to tie her shoes. Ditto for me and I gave up socks
entirely.
She craves odd
combinations of food. So do I, especially pizza and ice cream.
She needs two
naps a day. I have two before lunch.
The baby kicks
her stomach so much that she can’t get to sleep. The same thing happens to
me when I eat a deluxe pizza before bedtime.
The more she
talked, the more I realized that our symptoms were exactly the same. It dawned
on me with a shock, “Maybe I’m not just an old coot; maybe I’m pregnant!” I
immediately got up and went home. I’m never going to the doctor’s office again.
The Old Coot gets an early Christmas present!
Published 12/23/2003
I peeked under our Christmas tree
the other day and spotted a dozen gifts with my name in various form on the
tags: To Dad, To Hubby, To Old Coot, etc.
I decided to check out one that was the size of a pack of cigarettes; I
quit smoking twenty years ago so it intrigued me. When I picked it up to see
how heavy it was or if it rattled a strange thing happened; the wrapping
started to come undone. I tried to fix it, but it came all the way off. My wife
should know better than to leave me home alone.
It contained a small cardboard
box with a fluorescent label that said, “Cell Phone Zapper” (batteries
included). The instructions claimed it
would block cell phone signals within 40 feet of the user when the zap button
was pushed. I got very excited! I wrapped up the empty box and put it back
under the tree; the Zapper stayed with me. I couldn’t wait to try it out. I
quickly put on my coat and headed into the village.
My first stop was at the
Awakenings Coffeehouse. There is usually someone in there talking on a cell
phone. It doesn’t bother me except when the person is yelling or if I’m
sitting, quietly relaxing in an old coot stupor and a voice out of the blue
shouts out, “Hi!” I turn toward the sound and say “Hi” back, only to discover
the person isn’t talking to me, but to their phone. The place was crowded with
Christmas shoppers. I ordered my usual Old Coot special, a short “house” coffee
for a buck and took a seat at a small table in the back. I slipped my finger on
the zapper button and pushed it. A woman across the room, another at the table
next to me and a guy standing at the counter all reacted in the same way; they
pulled their cell phones from their ears and looked around in puzzlement. The
woman next to me shouted, “Darn,” and turned to her friends to tell them her
phone went dead. I was impressed! I sat quiet, with a sly grin on my face, and
nursed my coffee in peace.
My next stop was at the super
market. I was in the “12 items or less” line, right behind a rude, burly guy
pushing a full cart of groceries. As he unloaded his purchases I hit the button
on the zapper by accident. The conveyor belt that was pulling his stuff toward
the checker, sputtered and then reversed direction, shoving his groceries off
the counter and knocking over a rack of magazines, half of which had Saddam
Hussein’s picture on the cover. When he stooped to pick up the mess I cut ahead
and checked out. Wow, I was even more impressed now!
My last stop was at the pharmacy;
why they still call it that I can’t figure out. It should be called the RX -
Five & Dime; they only devote 10% of the store to drugs, the rest of the
place is overrun with stuff you can find in any variety store at half the
price. I picked up a pack of gum and went to pay for it. The store has four check-out stations, but as
is usually the case, the only clerk in sight was behind the “one-hour photo”
counter, pretending to be busy. He looked up when I shoved the gum and a dollar
bill under his nose. He acted put out, but finally smiled and said, “What’s up
Pop?” It was then that I noticed his tongue was pierced and sported a silver
stud, as were both eyebrows and his left nostril. His cell phone rang and I hit
the button on my new Zapper as soon as he answered it. It went dead and then a
strange look came over his face; he started to shake.
“What’s the matter,” I asked.
“I don’t know. All my piercings
are vibrating and tingling. They’re driving me crazy!” Then he fled to the back
of the store, unfastening and casting aside an assortment of silver and gold
ornaments as he went. Another clerk appeared and checked me out.
I walked home a happy man, full
of Christmas spirit. I rewrapped the perfect “Old Coot” present and slipped it
under the tree, hoping my wife wouldn’t notice it had been tampered with. I
felt sleepy after such an exciting afternoon and plopped down in my old coot
recliner; I was off in dreamland in seconds. The next thing I knew I was being
shaken by the shoulder.
“Wake up! Wake up, my son Zachary
shouted. You’re having a bad dream! You keep yelling ZAP and then laughing.”
I came out of my stupor and
immediately walked over to the Christmas tree. The little present was still
there. Was it a dream? Was it real? I won’t find out until Christmas morning.
Then I’ll finally find out if Santa is real. Merry Christmas!
The DOG ATE my TAX BILL
published 1/14/2004
“The dog ate it!” That’s what I’m
going to tell the County Legislators.
It all started last week when the
county tax bill came in the mail. I opened it up right away because I was
curious to see how much the projected 20% increase was going to cost me, $290,
as it turned out. I got a double whammy; my bill went up 20% because the County
Legislators couldn’t find it in their hearts to reduce county services (many of
which didn’t even exist ten years ago) and 20% because of the town of Owego
reassessment, a grand total of 40%.
I put the bill in my pending file
(a heap of bills impatiently waiting their turn on top of my desk) and took the
envelope it came in over to the recycle bin to throw it away. A small folded
piece of paper fell out. “What’s that,” I wondered? I picked it up thinking it
might be a note from the Legislators, saying they were sorry about the
increase, and how we might work together to stop the bleeding.
I was wrong. There wasn’t a
single word from the Legislature, even though this is the only official
communication it has with taxpayers every year. No, the note that accompanied
the tax bill wasn’t an apology or an explanation; it was a list of rules we
MUST follow when paying the bill. It detailed 4 requirements, each with a check
mark in front of it to emphasize how important it was.
#1 – Payments must have a legible
postmark. (I guess they expect us to oversee the post office clerk in Syracuse
who carelessly postmarks our mail)
#2 - Envelopes must be delivered
by the US Postal Service, NOBODY ELSE! (Gosh, I was thinking of saving $.37 and
delivering it myself, Nuts!)
#3 - If you use a check writing
service you should be aware they may be slow (pay late) and may use a
non-acceptable postmark or postal service. (Like any of us have any money left
to pay for a check writing service)
#4 - The date on the check is not
proof of payment. (Boy, they really do think we are stupid, don’t they)
They did a thorough job of
telling us how to pay the tax bill, but they skipped the part of where we
should get the money to pay the increase. Now I know why Robert Bell and the
rest of the fed up taxpayers are going to reenact the Boston Tea Party and
throw their tax bills into the Susquehanna River. I think I’ll wander down to
the new bridge in Owego on the scheduled day of protest, Saturday, January 17th
at noon, and see how it goes. Maybe I’ll throw my bill in too.
Then I’ll tell the tax collector
the dog ate it
The Old Coot takes the mail for
a walk.
Published
1/07/2004
I took the mail for a walk the
other day. I slipped three envelopes into my coat pocket and headed out the
door to town. My first stop was at the Awakening's Coffeehouse. It's a great
place to start the day, to get the pulse of the village.
I wasn't exactly asked to leave,
but I could tell by the look the waitress gave me that hogging a booth for an
hour while nursing a dollar's worth of coffee was pushing my welcome to the
limit, especially with a line of customers from the counter to the front door.
I took the hint and moved on; the mail in my pocket was a dim memory.
I walked along Front Street past
the new bridge to Dunkin Donuts. I wonder how many years it will be before we
stop calling it the “new bridge.” I was hoping I'd bump into Bill Nolis, the
owner. He's usually all ramped up about something or other and his enthusiasm
is contagious. I needed some of it to recharge my batteries. It works even
better than the caffeine that comes in his coffee. He wasn’t around so I picked
up a large coffee-to-go, and left. I passed by the Viet Nam Memorial in front
of the Court House like I do most mornings. Sixteen local boys lost their lives
in that war. I didn't know any of them, having grown up elsewhere, but I
memorized their names a few years back. I thought it was the least I could do.
It could have been me; I had a one-A classification in the 1960’s, but lucked
out and didn't get drafted. Anyhow, I've come to know these guys in a way, just
by reciting their names every time I pass by, and then looking at the monument
to check my memory.
Thank you: Anthony Battista Jr, Wayne Carlson,
Duane
Carter, Michael Chamberlain, Gary Faucett,
James Nulton, Donald Penny,
Merritt Murray, Anthony Revak, Duane Romeo, Donald Rummel, Donald Spicer, Gregory
Stiger,
John Wurtenberg, James Zimmer
&
James Moore Jr.
We’ll be forever grateful for
your sacrifice and bravery.
I arrived home 20 minutes later
with a writing ides clinging precariously to the edge of my taxed memory
system. I needed to jot it down fast, before it escaped. As I hung up my coat I
noticed the letters in my pocket. My wife yelled in from the other room,
"Did you mail the bills?"
"No," I replied (out
loud), and then quietly, so she couldn't hear. "I took them for a walk
instead."
Old Coot’s, Valentine’s Day tips!
Published 2/11/2004
It’s Valentine’s Day again, a
dangerous time for men. It’s more than just another opportunity to prove we are
terrible gift givers; it’s the “final exam” in relationship building. The
airwaves are full of suggestions: flowers, candy, fine dining for two, or, how
about naming a star after her? You can give the gift of “forever,” according to
the International Star Registry Company, just cough up $54 and send it to them
as soon as possible. You’ll receive a sky chart that shows the location of her
star and a certificate suitable for framing.
Sounds good? Be careful, you now have your foot in quicksand and the alligators are licking their chops. I’ve made every mistake possible for Valentine’s Day. I can save you from the same fate if you’ll just follow these Old Coot tips on valentine gifts.
Sounds good? Be careful, you now have your foot in quicksand and the alligators are licking their chops. I’ve made every mistake possible for Valentine’s Day. I can save you from the same fate if you’ll just follow these Old Coot tips on valentine gifts.
* Don’t buy anything with a
handle or an electric cord.
* Don’t get anything for the
kitchen.
* Never get a present for her
car, even if the windshield washer fluid has hearts on the bottle; don’t do it.
.
* No gift certificates and
definitely, no cash. (What are you, her uncle?)
* Forget about
buying clothes; they won’t fit. In case you haven’t noticed, women never buy
anything without trying it on. Ladies sizes don’t mean a thing. If your gift is
too big or too small you are in trouble. She’ll interpret it as a statement about
her weight. There is absolutely no chance of picking something that will fit
and also make her feel good about herself. And, please, don’t get caught up in
the hype of Victoria’s Secret ads and buy something romantic and sexy. She’ll
just want to know what the sales clerk looked like and how much of a fool you
made of yourself picking it out.
Last, but not least, do not name
a star for her. It will only establish, for all time, your enormous
gullibility. Do you want her to refer to you as the guy who dished out $54 for
something akin to a pet rock? I know it sounds impressive when the ad says that
naming a star after her is a gift that will lasts forever, especially since it
will be registered with the US Copyright Office,” but it’s a lie. The naming is
not official; the copyright office only registers the exclusive right of the
Company to make copies of their list (in book form). Copyright = the right to
copy, DUH! I’m not saying the book of names won’t be a best seller. I’m certain
it will, but only to telemarketing companies. They’ll pay a lot of money for a
list of easy marks, guys so desperate to come up with a gift that they’ll throw
away $54 on a cheap certificate and an undecipherable sky chart.
So what should you buy? Don’t ask
me; I just know what “not” to buy. Maybe you can do what you did in high school
when you “forgot” to study for the big exam, pretend you have the flu, spend
the day in bed. That’s what I’m doing. In fact, I think my forehead is starting
to get a little warm right now.
candy tin saves Old Coot from cold hand
PUBLISHED 3/10/2004
I froze my hand putting gas in
the car the other day. I guess I shouldn’t complain; I love self-service. I
hated the old days when it took forever to get gas, when you had to wait your
turn while an attendant named, Slowpoke, Turtle or Snail, filled the tank of
the car in front of you, checked the oil level & tire pressure, washed the
windows and then sauntered back to the office to make change. When my turn
would finally come, I’d hop out of the car and start pumping gas before the
attendant could get there. Sometimes he’d let me continue, but most times he’d
take the pump from my hand and say, “I’ll take care of that, sir! Company
regulations, you know.”
No, I shouldn’t complain, but I’m
going to anyhow, because “somebody” is to blame for my frozen hand, actually, a
whole bunch of somebody’s, the politicians in Albany who labor endlessly to
protect us from ourselves. They’ve strapped us in seat belts, slapped
motorcycle helmets on our heads, took away our burn barrels and yanked
cigarettes out of our mouths as we quietly sat sipping beer in the local tavern
minding our own business (the old coot doesn’t smoke, but he resents being told
he can’t). Their handiwork is everywhere, including the place I buy gas for my
car.
In most states you can put the
nozzle in your tank, click it on “automatic’ and go about your business:
washing grime off your windows or checking the washer fluid. I don’t do that; I
just stand around with my hands in my pockets gawking at the exotic
automobiles, being the car nut that I am. You can’t do it in New York; it’s
forbidden by section 2206.7.6.1 of the State Fire Code. (I waited for 2 months
to get that information from Senator Libous, but he never responded. Bob Warner
sent me a reply in 1 day. I can’t blame Libous; he hates it when he gets a
letter from the Old Coot).
After my frozen hand thawed I
began to watch the “people” in the gas station, not the cars.
They weren’t standing near their gas tanks squeezing the handle on the
filler nozzle. They were walking around clearing snow off their windshields,
kicking ice blocks from underneath their wheel wells and visiting with each
other. “How are they doing that,” I wondered?
I hung around to check it out,
staying for more than an hour, drinking coffee, taking notes and chatting with
drivers. They’d figured out a way to beat the system. I was impressed with the
wide range of solutions my fellow civil dissidents had come up with. I watched
as they jammed tennis balls, baseballs, apples, ice scrapers, cell phones, tape
measurers, wallets, soda cans and Altoid tins into the handle of the gas pump
to keep it pumping while their hands stayed warm. Altoid tins seem to be the
device of choice; they outscored all other devices three to one during my
one-hour survey. I think it’s because of their square shape; it doesn’t slip
out like a tennis ball or an apple.
Some people confessed that they’d
overfilled their tank once or twice and spilled gas on the ground when they
weren’t paying close attention. That won’t happen with the automatic handles
that our state officials forbid us to use. It’s kind of ironic that New York’s
rigid regulations make our gas stations more dangerous than in other states. If
you’re worried that the politicians will catch us violating the fire code,
don’t. When did you ever see a state
senator or assemblyman filling his or her gas tank? Their staff members or
chauffeurs do it. When I finished my survey I went inside the gas station and
bought a tin of Altoids. I’m never going to freeze my hand again!
HUSH! old coot has a long distance call!
Published 3/17/2004
I remember when a long distance
phone call was something special, when the person answering the phone trembled
as the telephone operator said she had Mrs. X on the line from
Long-distance-ville," and then shouted, "Hush," to anyone within
earshot, backing it up with, "It's long distance!" If my mother
answered the phone she didn't yell hush, she yelled for us kids to, "Shut-up,"
and then told us to run and tell our father we had a long distance call. This
was a family affair.
People didn't make very many long
distance calls when the Old Coot was a kid. They only called when the message
was too urgent to wait for the US Mail. The entire household shifted into an
agitated state as word of a long distance call spread through the house. It
usually meant something bad: Aunt Millie had a stroke, Uncle Harold was run
over by a car or Cousin Pete had been thrown in the slammer. Adrenalin shot all
over the place.
My father's sister, Arletta, was
the source of many of our long distance calls. My mother complained that
Arletta would put her in an early grave; she'd call to just say hello to my
father; it didn’t have to be an emergency. All her “long distance” adrenalin
was short-circuited, like driving at 30 mph in a car and speeding up to 100 mph
only to slam on the brakes.
It was such a big deal in those
days that kids bragged to each other whenever their family had a long distance
call. Sometimes I'd run out the door before the phone conversation began, to
tell the neighbor kids my aunt was on the line, calling from Connecticut!
"Wow," they'd exclaim, as I hustled back inside, full of pride.
Long distance was expensive and
it was rare; it was an event. It also was something to be avoided. You didn't
call unless you absolutely had to. And, people used the system to beat the
system. College kids placed long distance collect calls to their parents when
they got back to school. The operator would inform their mom or dad, or whoever
answered the phone, that she had a collect call for Betty Co-ed. The parent
would tell the operator that Betty wasn't there and hang up, pleased to know
that Betty had made it back to school and had placed a fake call to let them know
she’d arrived safely. Some families used a series of codes to communicate over
AT&T's long lines for free: a call for "Will B Town" meant you
were coming home, a call for "John Cold-Better," meant you were sick,
but doing OK and a call for "Mike Needum" meant you better come and
help quick.
It won't be long before the term
"long distance call" leaves our vocabulary entirely. It's become a
thing of the past, inconsequential. Just the other day I was on the phone
working out a computer problem on a toll free help line. I asked the woman
helping me where she was located. “Bombay, India” she answered,
nonchalantly.
Last month, February 12th,
to be exact, I was sitting on a bench at the Oakdale Mall. A kid next to me was
chatting loudly on his cell phone; he was on a three-way call; one friend was
on a beach in California, the other was at a car lot in New Jersey trying to
buy a car. All three were helping with the decision. As I sat there
eavesdropping my cell phone rang. I only use it for emergencies. I grabbed the
kid by the shoulder and yelled, "Shut-up! I've got a long distance
call!"
He put his phone down, more in
shock than in compliance with my startled request. My son-in-law was on the
line. My daughter just had a baby, her first and my fifth grandchild. I
finished the call; as I got up to leave I heard the kid tell his two friends
that an old coot on the bench next to him just had a grandkid.
Happy Birthday to my new grandson
- Wylie Cooper.
Old Coot finds magic on Parker Lane
Published 3/24/2004
I love Parker Lane. It's the
smallest street in Owego, only one block long and barely wide enough for a
compact car. It runs from Main Street (across from Saint Paul’s Episcopal
Church) to Front Street. I swear it’s a magic portal to the past. When I step
off the sidewalk on Front Street and enter Parker, in defiance of the
do-not-enter sign, I feel a time shift take place. I go in this direction, not
because it’s the best way to view the scenery; it isn’t, but because I’m an old
coot and old coots always look for ways to defy the rules, especially traffic
signs, even if we’re just traveling on foot. The sign says, "Do Not
Enter," and in we go! It's why we jaywalk, cross against a red light and
touch anything with a wet paint sign on it.
Parker Lane wasn’t always blessed
with such a melodic name. In the early 1800’s it was called Camp Alley. The
Camp family owned the property that surrounded it and had a lot to do with
Owego’s early history. Henry Camp owned the corner lot at Main St. where he operated
a foundry until it burned in 1836. He moved the operation to Front Street,
across from the Parkview Inn. This foundry produced engines and machinery that
were used in the local steamboats that hauled goods up and down the
Susquehanna. It too, caught fire and burned to the ground; this disaster
destroyed all the houses on both sides of Front Street from the bridge to the
alley. Much of Owego’s history has been shaped by fire. Unfortunately it’s a
force still at work.
Nathan Camp, Henry’s uncle, owned
the parcel of land that abuts the alley on the west. He too, had an impact on
the shaping of Owego, but all his contributions were positive. He started the first village library, in
1813, and was one of the founders of the Ithaca - Owego Turnpike Company, an
endeavor that helped expand trade in the village. He sold this lot in 1829 to
Harmon Pumpelly, who built an impressive brick mansion; it still graces the
site today. Harmon lived in the house for twelve years and then sold it to his
brother Charles Pumpelly. Charles died in 1855 and the property went to his
daughter Stella and her husband John M. Parker. The street was renamed in
Parker’s honor after his death in 1873. He was a 2-term congressman and then a
Supreme Court Justice.
When I walk down the lane I swear
I see the shadowy figure of Justice Parker striding from his back door to an
awaiting carriage, especially in the early morning hours when the area is
wrapped in a swirl of fog. I’ve convinced myself I also see the outline of
horses munching hay in the backyard and foundry workers shuffling along the
alley with tin lunch buckets clutched in their hands; even the smell of coal
smoke from ancient chimneys seems to hang in the air.
It only takes a minute to walk
down Parker Lane, but a minute in a time warp seems more like an hour. You
emerge relaxed, calm and ready for the rigors of the 21st century. It's the
best stress medicine around. A final irony greets you as you exit onto Main St.
The street marker for Main, the longest most active road in the village is one
foot long; the marker for Parker Lane, the shortest and least used pathway is
twice as big. It may be that the hands of the sign maker were guided by a force
beyond his control, a force that wanted to remind us that the lane is important
too, a connection to the past. Take a minute some time and see if the magic is
there for you.
The old coot is wise to the new procedures
Published 4/07/2004
I underwent a medical “procedure”
at the hospital. A procedure is 3rd on the list of invasive things
they do to you in the hospital: #1 is major surgery, #2 is minor surgery. Major
surgery is any operation on you; minor surgery is what they do to somebody
else. A “procedure” is a close relative of major and minor surgery. It’s about
as uncomfortable and painful, but insurance companies and HMO’s won’t pay to
have you knocked out for it. You have to take it on the chin. The word
"procedure" is used so you won't be afraid, so you'll show up.
When I was a kid my mother
dragged me kicking and screaming to the doctor to have my eardrum punctured to
ease the pain of an earache. I had it done so often I knew what was coming the
minute we pulled up to Doctor Rosefsky’s office behind his house in Binghamton.
They didn’t call it an eardrum “procedure” in those days; they told it like it
was. The AMA has gotten a lot smarter since then; the PR committee settled on
using the word “procedure” for the painful, uncomfortable things they do to us;
it was a stroke of pure genius. I just wonder why the medical profession is the
only group to do so.
IBM could have used it while they
reduced their work force in Endicott over the last ten years. Who would have
suspected anything bad when called to the boss's office for a "paycheck
procedure”? The guy who installed a new roof on my house could have softened
the blow after inspecting my roof if he said I needed a "shingle
procedure" instead of a complete tear down and replacement. Even our local
meteorologist would enhance his image if he'd just tell us to expect a
"precipitation procedure" rather than 20 inches of snow.
The way it can be used is
endless. You’re spouse’s lawyer will say you are about to undergo an unhooking
procedure, not a divorce. When you reach for your wallet and discover it’s
empty after a day at the mall with the kids, you can tell yourself you just
underwent a wallet procedure, not that you’re broke. And, when you get robbed
at gunpoint you can take solace in that you just underwent a sudden money
transfer procedure, not armed robbery.
The medical profession has always
been out in front with the clever use of language. They used Latin to describe
the parts of our bodies for years so we will think they are smarter than us and
so we won't know what they are about to do to us. They claim it's because Roman
physicians were the first to dissect and then name the components that make up
human anatomy; the various bones and body mechanisms were given Latin Names. I
don't buy it; I think the AMA stuck with Latin to keep us out of the loop, to
keep what they are doing a secret. They did the same thing with the metric
system. Even though our country measures things in pounds, ounces, quarts,
gallons, feet and inches our physicians discuss things in grams, cc's and
centimeters. It's why it takes so long to get a medical degree, four years to
learn the medical stuff and four years to learn Latin and the metric system.
The next time my doctor tries to
talk me into undergoing a "procedure" I'm going to make him say it in
English. I can't wait to hear what a gastrointestinal procedure sounds like
when he does. "Well, you old coot, he'll say, I want you to report to the
outpatient clinic and undergo a
stick-a-tube-down-your-throat-while-you-gag-scream-and-kick-so-we-can-look-at-your-stomache-with-a-fiberoptic-camera-and-then-you-won't-be-able-to-swallow-for-a-week
“procedure.” I'll let him stick the word procedure on the end as long as the
preceding words are understandable. I just hope the editor reviewing this
article can survive the, "You must be kidding; why must I undergo this,
“stupid-Old-Coot-rambling procedure."
Old Coot won’t answer the
phone!
Published 5/12/2004
There are two kinds of people in the world, two distinct personality
types. Social scientists have given the two a lot of different names over the
years: passive – aggressive, right brained – left brained, Type A – Type B. A
hot book on the market today tries to make the case that the different
personality types fall along gender lines, as in “Men Are From Mars; Women Are
From Venus, but the author got it wrong. It’s not that simple. This isn’t a man
– woman thing
I've discovered a new way that this phenomenon has exhibited itself in
our highly technological society. I call it the answering machine people versus
the cell phone people phenomena. Answering machine people hate to talk on the
phone; cell phone people love it, and they'd like it even better if there was
some way they could be directly connected to the brain of the person they’re
talking to. Then they could share every fleeting thought, cortex to cortex. On
the other hand, answering machine people are so bad they don't even want to
take a call from the guy at Readers Digest telling them they won $1 million.
I'm an answering machine person. I feel like I'm at an AA meeting,
admitting (confessing to) my problem as I write this sentence, but it’s true.
In an ideal world, answering machine people (AMP’s) would never talk directly
to anyone. We’d be happy with a communication system where we leave a message
on your machine, you leave a reply on ours, and so on. Eventually we'll get our
points across. We AMP’s need to think about what someone said for a little
while before we answer; we need to figure out the best way to respond. We tell
ourselves it's because we're diplomatic, but deep down we know that's only
partly true. Deep down we know we do it to avoid blurting out something stupid.
It all started in 1st grade, when the teacher called on us in class
and our school mates erupted in laughter at the dumb answers we came up
with.
Cell phone people (CPP) are open and up front. They don't want to think
about their response. They just want to say it and see what the other person
comes back with. CPP’s and AMP’s should not get married. In fact there should
be a screening question on the marriage application that prevents legal unions
of this sort. Unfortunately, CPP’s are only attracted to AMP’s and vice versa.
AMP’s can fake it during courtship, can carry a cell phone and be at the beck
& call of their prospective mate, but little clues begin to surface as the
relationship matures. The AMP’s start to miss calls, to turn off their phones.
They claim, "I was out of range, my battery ran down, or it slid out of my
pocket and was on the seat of the car. That's phase #1. Phase #2 begins when
the phone is discarded entirely and the cell phone person is forced to leave a
message every time they call.
You might guess that most men are answering machine people and most women
are cell phone people, but that's not the case. CPP’s and AMP’s are equally
split across the sexes. In fact, the best story I heard at one of the monthly
AMP meetings came from a woman in Vestal who is an AMP addict. I won't reveal
her name; let's just call her Connie.
Connie is a busy mother and wife with a demanding job; she’s on the go
24/7. She leaves messages all over the place; she’s in and out of contact with
a sizable network. Connie came home after a hectic day and played her messages.
The last one on the tape was for her daughter, from a woman whose voice she
didn’t recognize. When her daughter came home, she and Connie listened to the
message together, neither could quite make it out; the caller didn't leave a
name or a number. They had no idea who it was from. Finally, the daughter
pushed star – 69 on the phone and rang the caller’s number. The phone rang
twice and then an answering machine kicked in. It was Connie’s machine at her
office. She had made the call and left a message for her daughter and then
promptly forgot all about it. That's the day Connie signed up for our monthly
AMP meetings; she wants to get cured, to become a cell phone person. She is
determined to prevent having her senior moments documented on answering machine
tapes across the land.
Not me; I won’t make the conversion. I have a cell phone, but I never
answer it; I only use it for outgoing calls. If you want to reach me, leave a
message; I’ll get back to you, to your machine, at least.
Old Coot’s Pants Catch on Fire!
Published 5/26/2004
“Liar, Liar, Pants on fire……” is the start of a timeless chant that kids
yell at liars. Parents teach their children that lying is bad, one of the worst
things you can do, and then lie like crazy themselves, lie to them all the
time. “No I don’t,” you protest! Oh yea, what about that fat guy who keeps a
list of who’s been naughty or nice and lives at the North Pole and flies around
in a sled pulled by reindeer on Christmas Eve. And, how about the Easter Bunny,
the Tooth Fairy, the Boogey Man, Jack Frost and the host of other invented
characters used in the child rearing process, not to mention the biggest lie of
all, that George Washington chopped down a tree and then confessed, “I can not
tell a lie; I cut down the cherry tree.” Oh please!
We lie. And, then we lie about lying. It's a rare person who is aware
that he or she lies, and rarer still is the person who admits it. I don't know
why we do it; I’ll leave that to the social scientists and psychologists. It's
a practice that is tightly woven into the fabric of every culture on the planet,
from the well-educated and highly sophisticated societies of New York City to
the primitive tribes living in remote forests exactly like their Stone Age
ancestors. Lying is an inbred "human condition."
I remember my mother and father telling me when I was four and on my way
into the hospital to have my tonsils out that the doctor was going to wheel me
into the operating room where a nurse would open a drawer and take out a rose.
When I smelled the rose I’d fall asleep and they'd take out my tonsils. I could
have ice cream when it was over. There was no drawer; there was no rose, and
when they strapped the ether mask to my face I knew the lie for what it was. My
throat was so sore that it was a full week before I could swallow anything, let
alone ice cream. A year later when they told me the dentist’s drill wouldn’t
hurt I was wiser; he drilled and it killed, so I bit his hand.
It's clear that we lie, and not just to kids. We lie to everybody,
everyday. We never call it lying; we never even think of it as lying. We tell
ourselves it’s a fib, a fable, a stretched truth, a tall tale, a story,
practical use of tact, a kindness or when caught red handed, a “white” lie.
Hollywood has built a multimillion-dollar industry on made up stories and they do
it so well we forget that it's fiction (a classy lie). We think the movie stars
are the people they portray. Jessica Lange was even called before a
congressional committee after making a movie about losing a farm to bankruptcy.
She wasn’t called as an actress; she was called as a farmer.
It is so ironic that we lie everyday and yet think the most detestable
thing a person can do is to lie. If someone gets caught they are disgraced,
which is why people lie even more vigorously when they are accused of being
slippery with the facts. Just look at how many politicians have gone down in
flames after lying about lying. Even the one who stared into the camera and
wagged his finger at us as he swore to never have had relations with that
woman, Miss Lowinsky. Politicians make a living with lies, not all of them, but
enough to taint the whole profession. If one/one-hundredth of the promises
they’ve made over the last ten years came true, we'd be living in a world free
of crime, poverty and war; there’d be a chicken in every pot. We don’t suspect
it’s a lie when they tell us they are working for us, for the little guy. Even
when they granted themselves the best pension plan and health care system in
the country and then slipped us the bill, we still voted them back into office.
They look us dead in the eye and claim they want nothing for themselves, only a
chance to perform a “public service.” Oh my, what a whopper that one is!
We need to face the truth, to admit we lie. I for one, plan to stop
lying. I don’t know if I can do it. I don’t know if I can stop myself from
saying: “No, I don’t think you’ve put on weight - Wow, I love what you’ve done
with your (hair, house, office, life etc. - Yes doctor, I’ll lose 15 pounds and
exercise every day - I think that outfit looks great on you - I’d love to spend
Super Bowl Sunday at the mall - You better wait an hour after eating before
going swimming or you’ll drown - Real men don’t cry - If you throw rice at
weddings the birds will eat it and blow up – Go ahead and tell me; I won’t tell
anybody else – Yes, I agree, your kid is really the cutest thing that ever
lived.”
If I slip and somebody taunts me with, “Liar, Liar, pants on fire; your
nose is longer than a telephone wire,” I’ll simply point out that they are the
liar; my pants are not on fire and my nose is not that long, not yet anyhow.
You’re fired!
published
6/09/2004
Endicott
Interconnect fired 84 workers on Friday; it was their way of kicking off the
Memorial Day weekend. One of the “chosen few” was in his 20th year
at the plant. His manager called him into the office and said, “The Company
needed to take action; your job was eliminated.” IBM, the company from which
Endicott Interconnect was formed, used a similar script; it too, was crafted by
a team of corporate wordsmiths and HR executives. The IBM masterpiece read like
this, “We had resource actions; you were affected.”
Neither company
told employees they were fired. When you got the ax in the old days you knew
it. The boss called you in, looked you in the eye and said, “You’re fired.” Not
anymore. They’ve come up with a variety of scripts to make it easier for the
manager to give the ax and to confuse the discarded employee, to make him feel
it isn’t his fault he no longer has a job. “It’s a resource problem.”
Translation – you’re a resource we don’t want. It’s similar to when your girl
or boyfriend breaks up with you and says, “It’s not you, it’s me.” I guess if
it’s not your fault it doesn’t hurt, whether you’re getting fired or getting
jilted.
We should have
seen this coming when companies changed the name of their Personnel Departments
to Human Resources back in the 1980’s. Employees went from being people, to
being a resource, not much different in the CEO’s eyes from the rest of the
stuff used in the business: materials, machinery, buildings, patents, vehicles
and so forth. It’s easier to eliminate a “human resource” than it is to fire a
“person.”
You have to pay
attention to the words of corporate executives and politicians. They are
constantly inventing new ones to disguise what they are up to. It’s tough,
because the new ones sound nice; it usually takes years to figure out that one
of their gems means something really nasty. And when we figure it out they
invent a new word. This tendency of CEO’s to fire employees to make the
quarterly income statement come out better is a perfect example. First they
called it “cutting back,” then it became “downsizing.” We caught on and they
changed it to “right sizing.” Shareholders like that better. It’s more positive;
things aren’t going down; they are becoming right. CEO’s in the
old days bragged about how many employees they had; today’s crowd brags about
how many they fire (right-size).
Some of the words, especially from politicians
mean the exact opposite of what it sounds like; sometimes it means nothing at
all, like the phrase, “Average American.”
Who do you think is being talked about when you hear a politician claim
the average American wants this or that? Yourself? Sure you do; we all do. But
he’s not talking about you or me or anybody else we know. There is no such
thing as an Average American. It’s just a term the politicians use to make us
think they are doing the right thing for us.
Another term you hear a lot of politicians use is “real people.”
Candidates claim they are out for the real people. What else could they be for,
robots?
“Customer
choice” is a good one, too. It sort of like asking a guy on death row how he’d
like to make his exit, gas chamber or electric chair. “Customer choice” in practice
really means you take it their way or not at all.
If you’re an
old coot this can give you a real kick, especially when you turn up the
sensitivity on your B.S. meter and translate a quote from a corporate or
political wordsmith. It’s a blast. Sometimes I do this while my wife is fixing
dinner. She’s peeling potatoes and I’m reading to her from an article in the
paper, translating from corporateeze to plain English. If I do this for longer
than five minutes she “right sizes” the kitchen and I find myself on the back
porch explaining things to the squirrels.
Old Coot has a tin ear!
published 6/02/2004
Have you
noticed that loud music has taken over? It started with the outdoor rock
concerts in the seventies, most notably Woodstock. The music was so loud that
kids came home stone deaf, for a day or two anyhow. Here we are in a new century and the volume
is cranked even higher. The main drag in town is a scant 30 feet from my front
door. Hundreds of cars and eighteen-wheelers pass by every day. The trucks are
noisy. I can hear them when I’m in the house, but the sound is usually just a
low rumble. The real pain comes from a car with a cranked up stereo system when
it stops for a school bus out front, one with rap music blaring through a giant
set of exotic speakers powered by an amplifier with enough wattage to make the
car doors vibrate in time with the music.
These
rolling, rock concerts are all over the place. The sound systems cost several
thousand dollars, which is ironic when you consider that most of the time they
are worth more than the cars that transport them. These 4-wheel stereo sets are
reproducing at an alarming rate. I hate it when I get trapped behind one at a
traffic light; the blast is so loud it forces me to cover my ears and cringe. I
blow my horn, but the maestro in front of me never hears it.
Every
once in a while my wife and I stop in at a local watering hole. It’s a friendly
place and we really enjoy the crowd of “regulars,” but at 9pm the fun comes to
an end; a band takes over. We get there early and sit at the bar solving the
world’s problems and then watch a team of roadies drag in a vanload of sound
equipment: speakers larger than our refrigerator, enough wire to electrify a
small community, amps, pre-amps, mixers, echo chambers, drums, electric guitars
and a keyboard. Things start to go sour when the engineer begins to check it
out. “Testing, testing, one, two three.” He does this six times a minute,
adjusting a knob after each test. The control panel is as complicated as the
one NASA uses to launch a spacecraft.
Now mind
you, this is a little place. You would have no trouble hearing a singer with an
acoustic guitar. There are twenty bar stools, a few tables and a stand-up
gentleman’s bar. The band’s equipment fills the whole back area of the
establishment, a section normally occupied by a few quiet tables and a
seldom-used dart board. Amplifiers aren’t needed, but at nine on the dot, the
blasters are fired up.
That’s
when I think about heading home. I can’t handle the volume. The place fills up
with people in spite of a cover charge and limited space to sit or stand. After
one last sound test the show begins. The front window vibrates, wine glasses
shake & jingle, the lights in town begin to dim and the fish in the
Susquehanna head for Chesapeake Bay. It’s so loud you can only talk to the
person next to you and only if you cup your hands and shout directly into their
ear. Drinks are ordered by sign language.
I don’t
get it. Maybe, it’s because I’m an old coot, but I'm not sure. I like music. I
even like loud music, but not that loud. I think the worlds’ gone deaf.
It’s not just the bar scene either. Been to a wedding lately? The bride and
groom can only visit with their guests when the band takes a break. It wouldn’t
be so bad if I could read lips, but it’s a skill I never perfected. My wife can
converse with someone across the room, without a single sound reaching her ear.
My soundless communication is limited to head bobs: up and down for yes, side
to side for no. People mouth words in my direction and I bob my head, having no
idea what they are saying. It’s the reason I agreed to buy my daughters an old
Volkswagen Beetle when they were in high school. I bobbed my head up and down
when I should have bobbed it side to side. At the rate this loud music is
taking over; it won’t be long before I’m totally cut off from other humans.
Then, I’ll really become an old coot.
Old Coot Learns grunt language
Published 6/16/2004
Today's kids talk a lot on the Internet using “Instant Messaging.”
They've created a new form of the written language which experts claim is a
threat to the future of literature. In my day these same experts predicted that
comic books would cause the demise of the written word. The problem is most
pronounced in high school English classes. Can you imagine grading a literature
paper describing the comedy of Shakespeare as “LOL” (laugh out loud) funny or
irony portrayed as J/K (just kidding). It’s no wonder that dedicated English teachers
like Chris Evans at OFA are pulling their hair out.
I'll leave that challenge to Mr. Evans and his capable colleagues; I have
a different problem involving teenage communication, mine is with the spoken
word. I'm hard at work learning to communicate with teenage males in a language
I call the “Grunt” dialect. I'm not an expert, but I can pass along a few tips
to help you exchange information with male teenagers. I thought it would be a
snap when my son entered the maelstrom of teenagehood, having been through the
process with five daughters. I was wrong. Communication suddenly came to a
halt. I thought it was my problem, something going on between my son and me,
but when I looked around I discovered it’s a phenomena that affects most
teenage males.
These “boys” never use a word if a grunt or a shrug will serve their
purpose. "Hi kiddo, how was school today?" I ask, and get a
microscopic shoulder shrug in reply. I try again, “How did you do on the
English test?” He gives me an upward eye roll and then follows it up with a
conversation stopper, “I-don-no!” Are you starting to see the pattern? The
parent has to ask questions that can only be answered with a grunt or a shrug.
If you ask an open-ended question you get a blank stare. You can see the wheels
spinning, but it’s not because they’re puzzling over an answer; they’re trying
to decide if they should use a whole sentence. They apparently only allow
themselves 6 sentences a month with their parents. Even those, they save for
important issues like asking for money or lobbying to go someplace that they
know is off limits.
If you haven't experienced the grunt syndrome and wonder what it's like,
you can get an idea by handing the sports page to an adult male, give him 30
seconds to get into an article and then start asking questions. You'll get
responses similar to those of grunting, shrugging male teenagers. The only
difference is that the adult grunter has evolved his communication skills to an
evenly spaced series of, “Uh-Huh, Yes dears.”
I'm determined to beat the system, to break through the code. The next
time my son decides to use one of his 6 sentences, to ask me to take his gang
to the mall, I'm going to grab the sports page and give him a dose of his own
medicine. "Come on Dad; will you take us?" I'll lower the paper an
inch and squint at him over the top of my glasses. I won't say anything; I'll
just stare. "Come on Dad; we've got to meet “people” at the mall!" To
which I'll scratch my chin and grunt a M/BE. I'll continue this pattern forcing
him to use all 6 of his sentences. When they’re all used up and he can’t ask
for money until next month I'll get up and head toward the car and grunt,
“Lessgo!"
Old Coot doesn’t buy School
boards excuse!
Published 6/23/2004
It's official; the new Owego Middle School won't open in September as we
were promised, as recently as last month. It’s now scheduled to open on January
3rd, 2005. The reason? "A snowy winter and a rainy spring," according
to school officials. This old coot knows a bogus excuse when he hears it. Come
on, rain in spring, snow in winter? Do they really expect us to believe that
this "UNUSUAL" weather caused the screw up? The principal never
believed me when I came to school late and used the excuse that a big dog
chased me and I had to go the long way, and that it ate my homework too. I'm
not buying their excuse either.
I know why the project is late. It's because the school doesn't use a
regular calendar. They use a calendar that has 6 school days in a week, even
though the kids only go to school 5 days. It's this lack of understanding of a
standard calendar system that got them messed up. When the school board
discussed progress on the school with the contractor I imagine the conversation
went like this. The board president asked the contractor when the building
would be ready. The contractor started to respond with, "Late
Octob...." when the president cut him off. "We don't go by months and
days he told the contractor. I need to know on which school day it will be
finished." The contractor got confused. He tried to translate to the
school system calendar and blurted out, "We'll be ready on the first cycle
of day 3 (which is September 3) when he meant to say the 3rd cycle
of day 1. It got into the minutes as September 3rd so the board went ahead with
plans to move the kids into the new school.
When the teachers started hauling in their boxes of materials last week
they noticed that the walls were not painted, the blackboards were missing and
bare light bulbs were hanging from the rafters. They went to the principal and
superintendent to find out what was going on. The principal keeps a list of
excuses that kids use to explain why they are late. He and his boss looked it
over and discovered that weather, especially snow and rain, was used more than
anything. "Let's use that one," they both shouted at the same time
and then jumped in the air and high-fived each other.
They may fool
you with this lame brained "weather" excuse, but not this old coot.
It's their 6-day a week calendar that tripped them up. I had a hard time when I
was in school remembering to bring my gym clothes on Tuesday and Thursday. Kids
today have to remember that they have gym on days one, three and five and then
figure out what weekday it is. “Day one” this week fell on Thursday. Two weeks
ago it was Wednesday. It changed because the kids didn’t have school a couple
of Fridays ago. It was Superintendents in-service day or some such thing. About
every three or four weeks there is no school on Friday, which is why they had
to create a new schedule. The teachers and administrators have so many
conferences that school lessons were getting lost in the shuffle.
I think I’ll
pay my school taxes late this year. They’re due in September, the same month
the new school was promised. I’ll pay them in January. I’ll tell the tax police
that I sent in the check on time; it must have been held up in the mail due to
the weather. After all, we did have unusual weather this fall; it was rainy and
foggy!
How lazy are we?
published 7/06/2004
I opened a can of soup with an
electric opener the other day. I got half way around the top when the can
slipped out. This happens a lot. I think cans have smaller lips these days.
Manufacturers have found a new way to cut costs. I tried again, but the electric
opener wasn’t up to the job. I don’t know what kind it is; we bought it because
it’s black; it matches the coffee maker and the toaster that share counter
space with it. I went to the garage and grabbed a hand-powered opener from my
camping gear. It opened the can in a flash. I threw it in the silverware
drawer. I’m never using the electric one again.
It got me thinking, “Do we really
need electric can openers? Are we so weak and lazy that we can’t even open a
can?” No wonder we are turning into the “society of the obese.” We have power
everything. I started to take inventory; I couldn’t believe how big the list
was, the things I use power for, but could easily do by hand. It takes me 20
minutes to mow the lawn. It’s flat and compact. I could do it faster with a
push mower. By the time I gas up the power one and get it started I could be
finished. The only exercise I get comes from squeezing a metal rod on the
handle, that stupid mechanism that will shut down the mower if I let go, like
to pick up a piece of paper. It’s always a tough decision for me, “Should I
pick it up and let the mower stall or should I plow ahead, blast shredded paper
all over the yard and hope my wife doesn’t notice?”
It’s not just the mower; I use a
gas-powered weed-whacker to trim around the trees and an electric blower to
clear the clippings from the sidewalk. Not anymore; I’m getting back to nature;
I’m switching to hand, foot and arm power. Now that I’m a convert, my vision is
clear; I can see how little “human” power we use.
We don’t shovel snow; we blow it
or plow it. We don’t pound nails; we blast them in with air guns; we use
electric drivers for screws. Our offices are rife with electric staplers, pencil sharpeners
and paper shredders. How hard is it to tear up a piece of paper or crank the
handle on a pencil sharpener? We can’t get our butts off the couch to change
the TV channel; we are totally dependent on our “remotes.” It’s a real crisis
when it gets lost. The entire household shifts into a frantic search, akin to a
team of Forrest Rangers looking for a child lost in the woods. Some of us have
become too weak to flip a light switch; we clap our hands or yell to turn on a
lamp. It’s become so arduous to pull a razor across our face we need electric
powered blades. Pedal cars are headed for the Smithsonian; today’s models run
on batteries.
Cars demonstrate another degree
of laziness that has taken over our culture, aside from the fact that we often
drive when we could walk. No, it’s much worse than that; we have: automatic
transmissions, because we’re too weary to push in a clutch and move a gear
shifter around, power seats, cruise control, power windows and power radio
antennas. We won’t even get out to open the garage door; we insist on remote controlled,
automatic door openers. And, when we drive two blocks to the store instead of
walking, we can’t even muster enough strength to turn the radio knob; we push
the seek button to find a new station. We don’t wash our vehicles by hand
anymore; we drive them to an automatic car wash and sit listening to a CD as a
swirling set of brushes handles the chore.
The other day I saw an ad on TV
for a home air compressor. It showed a woman using it to blow up balloons for
her daughter’s birthday party. Our lungs have become too frail to do it. But,
all is not lost. The free enterprise system has responded to our deteriorating
condition. We can continue to drive instead of walk, to take the elevator
rather than the stairway and to sit on the couch with the remote clutched to
our bosoms. The solution is to join a gym at $50 a month, tip the trainer a few
bucks for customized instruction and hire a nutritionist to select delicious
meals and snacks that won’t end up on our backsides. If we could find a way to
pay someone to do the exercises for us we’d be ecstatic.
We may be lazy, but we sure are
inventive. Wait till you see my new feeding machine; you don’t have to use your
hands at all, just lean over and push the auger button on the stainless steel
feed trough. Oink when you’re done; it will shut off automatically.
Old coot is fenced out
published 7/28/2004
Old coots are leery of change, even those of us who've spent our entire
lives trying to create it. We've discovered that change often brings more than
we bargain for, but not always. The new Owego Bridge, for instance, is a good
change. It’s one year old this month and most of us still love it. It will be a
while before we stop calling it the "new" bridge, which lets you know
that it hasn't been totally accepted by the Owego community; it's still the new
kid on the block. Eventually we'll call it by its correct name, "The Court
Street Bridge," but not quite yet.
Owego has another new bridge, the Talcott Street Bridge. It's the main
connection between the village and the people living on Glenmary Drive and the
hills to the west. It's been a long hard summer without it, hundreds of extra
miles for a lot of people. I wandered over to it the other morning to check it
out, to see if it was close to being finished. I pulled up to the edge of the
project on my bike at 6:30 Sunday morning. Nobody was there. Old coots do their
best snooping under these conditions. The area was fenced off with a sign that
said, "Pedestrians Prohibited." I could see that the deck was paved,
the guardrails installed and that passage across was possible. The approaches
on both ends still needed to be paved and a few other details finished, but for
the most part this project is ready for the public. (I stopped by later in the
week and the foreman for Bector Construction Company told me that for all
practical purposes the bridge is done. Local highway crews will finish the job
by repaving Talcott Street.)
The "Pedestrians Prohibited" sign acted as a magnet, drawing me
closer. I was on my bike, so technically I wasn't a pedestrian. I drove around
the barricade and onto the deck. It looked fine to me. I peddled across to
Glenmary. It felt great. It's a nice sturdy bridge that will serve us well for
a generation or two. This is another example of a good change, though
the process to get there may have been a little rough, especially for families
on the other side of the creek who had to go around the long way to get to
town.
While I was in the area I swung by the new middle school to see how it
was coming. It still has a ways to go. I passed by the new track on my way
home. “I'd better give that a look,” I said to myself. It's very nice, though I
liked the cinder track it replaced; it was gentle on this old joggers joints.
Then I got a surprise as I did a few laps. I noticed a new page link fence
around the entire athletic area, separating the stands from the football field
and track. This was a change I hadn't expected, or even heard about. In
addition to the track, the contractor paved the small hill area between the
field and the bleachers. This is the area where all the little kids play while
their parents watch the game; they roll down the hill and play king of the
mountain. Now it's fenced off and hard as a rock.
And worse of all, they made the
“old coot football watching area” off limits. We can no longer stand in the end
zone and talk about the good old days while watching the football team create
their own set of memories; it’s fenced off. This is not a good change. I'm sure
the architect will defend the design: better security, better crowd management,
more in keeping with the times, but heck, this is just a small town football
field where families come to watch the game and let their kids play. When the
season begins the fans in the first three rows will watch the action through
the blur of a page link fence, the little kids will whine because there is
“nothing fun to do” and old coots like me will gaze longingly at the end zone
from outside the fence and whine as well. If you listen close you might hear
one of us remark, “Here we go again. The school board has made another change,
FOR OUR OWN GOOD.” We won’t make an official complaint because it will fall on
deaf ears; the money has been spent. You also might hear a response, something
like the one my son came up with he was two years old and confronted with an
unwelcome change in his life, “I hope I can get USED OF IT.”
Old Coot rejects media advice
published 8/18/2004
Another medical study was released this week; it seems like a new one
comes out every day; this one was on Alzheimer’s disease. It claimed
Alzheimer’s can be prevented by exercise and mental activity. If we walk a mile
and read the paper every day we can delay or prevent the onset of the disease,
so asserted the naive reporter reading the story into the television monitor.
I'm sure he hadn't given a thought to the ridiculousness of what he was saying.
He went on to say that it's even better if people intensify their mental
activity by doing the daily crossword puzzle, especially if they write with
their “left” hand. Arguing is good for the brain too; "Use it or lose
it," he said, as a wrap up to his report.
Every old coot does this stuff; we walk; we do crossword puzzles and we
argue. We go even further; we don't just argue with people; we argue with the
newspaper, the radio and the TV set. If you see us carrying on a conversation
all by ourselves as we drive by in our four-door sedans it’s because we're
arguing with, and yelling at, a newscaster on the radio.
I wonder why this “scientific” advice didn't work for Ronald Reagan? He
was vigorous; he kept fit, and mental exercise? My gosh! He was the President.
I'm sure his mind was stimulated every day, even if he didn't have time for the
crossword puzzle. It didn't work for my mother either. I never knew a more
active person. She started working as a school crossing guard when she was 65;
they had to drag her off her corner when mandatory retirement set in ten years
later. My grandmother was even more active, yet they both ended up with
Alzheimer's.
That’s the problem with these studies that the media airs as fact. Some
researcher develops a statistical sample, creates a hypothesis and publishes it
in a medical journal. The next day it's delivered to us as fact. “If we just
change our ways,” we can save ourselves from: Alzheimer's, heart trouble,
cancer, emphysema, strokes, you name it. We are a society that can’t accept
that things just happen; it’s called life. We delude ourselves into thinking we
are in control – “if we just do the right things,” we’ll be safe – we’ll live
forever. Old coots know the truth, that the meaning of life is not to be found.
We live, we die, and stuff happens in between – bad things happen to good
people – good things happen to bad people and vice versa.
My fellow old coots and I get irked when the popular media tries to tell
us how to live, how to guarantee ourselves a long life, free of illness. We
don’t want their advice, “Just the news, thanks.” Years from now (or maybe next
week), when I come into town with my pants on backwards and my name and address
pinned to my shirt I don’t want some young smart aleck pointing to me and
whispering, “It’s his own fault; he refused to do the daily crossword!”
See What You Made Me Do!
published 9/01/2004
See what you made me do! That's what my mother used to say when she
spilled something in the kitchen and I was within range. "What?” I'd
respond, “I didn't do anything." She'd "Harrumph" and start
cleaning up the mess. I'd get lost before I “made her” do something else, and
maybe get a swat for it this time.
My mother wasn't unique. Everybody tries to blame others for their
mistakes. It starts when we’re infants, when our world is so focused on our
mothers that we associate everything with her, the good and the bad. Gradually
we grow into our own self, but it's a slow process. Its kind of fun to watch
little kids struggle with the transformation. A four-year-old who bumps his
head is apt to run across the room and slap his mother. "See what you made
me do!" Even when we get older (and wiser) we still have to fight the
impulse.
In school, a failing grade is the “teacher's” fault. “The test wasn't
fair.” It had nothing to do with our failure to study. When teenagers mess up a
good relationship with the opposite sex and are told at the “break-up”
encounter, "It's not you; it's me;" they believe it. "Of course
it's you; it couldn't possibly be me."
You reach the 1st plateau of wisdom when you’ve figured out
it's your fault when things YOU do, go bad. Some people never reach this level
of maturity. They spend their entire life blaming others. They never change
their approach to things. Why should they? They can just say, "See what
you made me do," when they get fired, evicted, divorced or disenfranchised
from their family.
You can witness this phenomena at work in all levels of society - In the
store, when the manager won't make things right because “it's the policy"
- The customer service clerk on the phone who agrees with you, but still won't
allow the discount because the "computer" won't let him - The doctor,
who apologizes for your two-hour wait by explaining that the office staff
overbooked his schedule. “See what they made me do.”
The impulse to blame someone else is most noticeable in politics. It's
not the County Legislator's fault that taxes have gone up 50% in the last few
years; it's the State's fault. School taxes didn't go up because of anything
the school board did. It’s not the state senate or assembly’s fault a budget
didn’t get passed. They all point to others and yell, “See what you made us
do.”
This lack of accountability goes to the highest level of our democracy.
President Clinton still uses it with ease. In his best selling book he explains
the Monica Lowinsky affair by blaming congress. He claims they didn’t pass his
budget and caused a government shutdown. White House staff did not report to
work leaving him alone in the West Wing with Monica. One thing led to another.
“See what they made me do,” he explains in his memoirs.
What’s good for the president is good for the rest of us. Why fight it?
The next time you get caught in a speed trap simply look straight into the
cop’s eyes when he asks for your driver’s license & registration and tell
him to go around to the other side of the car and give the ticket to your mate,
because, “She/he made me do it”! Let me know how that works out for you.
Old Coot says “Duh,” more now than ever!
Published 9/08/2004
Last December I wrote an article about the one-word term, ‘DUH’! I
asserted that it was the most useful 3 letter phrase in the English language;
it conveys so much with so little effort, like when a TV sports announcer tells
us during the half-time break that the Giants football team will win the game
if they start moving the ball and scoring points. There is no better response
to stupidity of that magnitude than, “DUH!”
No other expression provides such a perfect response to the stupid,
obvious and dumb things we are forced to endure.
I find myself saying DUH a lot lately. It's got me worried. I'm afraid
it’s a sign that I'm transforming from an old coot to an old geezer. I've
tentatively decided it isn’t so. I’m blaming it on global warming; the change
in the world’s climate is causing more and more people to say dumber and dumber
things, forcing me to say Duh more often.
Sometimes people say stupid things directly to me; other times I overhear
their comments. In either case, no matter how hard I try to stifle my DUH
reflex, it always slips out. For example, I was talking to a friend’s mother
the other day; I don’t want to use his real name; let’s call him Kyle. She told
me she was taking him to the dentist later in the afternoon. He's 43, married
and has 3 kids, but she has to take him to the dentist. I asked why and she
told me that Kyle doesn't like going to the dentist. I bit my tongue, but the
DUH slipped out anyhow. That DUH said a lot. It expressed the rest of my
thought without me having to say, “Poor Kyle, he hates going to the dentist;
isn't that too bad. The rest of us love it. We can’t wait to feel the prick of
the Novocain needle, to hear the high pitch whine of the drill, to grab the
chair handles so tight our fingers go to sleep as the dentist bears down while
asking us an endless series of questions to distract our attention from the
‘procedure’ we are undergoing. We especially like to spit, sputter and drool
the rest of the day as the Novocain slowly dissipates. Oh yes, Kyle is quite
unique; he deserves to be babied by his mother in his time of crisis, DUH!”
I've been shouting ‘DUH’ at the Awakenings Coffeehouse so often that the
owner asked me to limit my patronage to 1 hour per day, and to be sure I’m out
the door by 8am, before they get busy. I don’t think it’s me; I don’t think
anybody could stop themselves from yelling ‘DUH’ if they overhead some of the
conversations I endure. Take the things I overhead yesterday:
Woman #1 – I hate fall. It reminds me that the holidays are coming up and
I dread them, especially Christmas. I do all the shopping, the wrapping, the
baking and then I spend the whole day cooking, but nobody wants to eat. They
order a pizza. Woman #2 - Why don't you change what you're doing and make it
into a time you can enjoy. Life is too short.
My ‘DUH’ was so loud the restaurant owner heard it in the kitchen.
Merchant #1 - Business is bad; there’s no place to park in this stupid
village. Merchant #2 - Isn't that your car parked in front of your shop?
Again, I couldn’t stop a ‘DUH’ from slipping out.
Old Coot #1 – The politicians say that spending $7 billion to change the
name of route 17 to 86 and removing a few intersections will make our area
prosper. Old Coot #2 – Don’t hold your breath. Do you really feel they think we
are that gullible?
“DUH,” I shouted as I walked toward the door, the owner holding it open
and pointing to the sidewalk where she wanted me to be finish my coffee.
I asked her if she thought the state budget would be late again next
year. She looked at me with a funny expression and then shouted, “Of course
not, DUH,” as I beat it up the street.
Squirrel teaches Old Coot a
lesson
published 9/22/2004
I didn't know squirrels could swim. I hadn't given it a lot of thought,
but had anyone asked me, I would have said no. Now I know better. I was out on
the river with four friends in a kayak. You can always spot me when I'm with
other people on the river; I'm the slowpoke. I say I’m taking my time so I can
observe the wildlife along the riverbank, but it’s really because I'm an old
coot and no matter how hard I paddle I can’t keep up with the group, any group,
even the AARP crowd.
Jean was in the lead kayak. She pointed to a lump in the middle of the
river and shouted, "What's that?" Being the elder, and self-proclaimed
wildlife expert, I took a look and chuckled, “It’s just a log.” She didn't buy
it. "No, she replied. It's furry!"
"Well,” I countered, “Then it must be a muskrat.” (They're all over
the place, but not usually in the middle of the river). I started paddling I
was sure it was a log and wanted to be first to get to it. It wasn't a log; it
wasn't a muskrat. It was a squirrel, doing the dog paddle and making good time.
I reported the news and then began to follow it to see where it was going. It
headed straight for shore, taking ten minutes to get there from the middle of
the river. When it hit the riverbank it jumped out of the water and scampered
up a tree.
I was stunned; we all were. None of us knew that squirrels could swim. We
discussed why it was in the middle of the river. Did it fall out of a tree
along the bank and swim in the wrong direction? Was it a teenage squirrel
running away from home? Was it an old coot squirrel, banished by the clan for
talking about the good old days all the time?
I thought I’d never find out why the squirrel swam across the river, but
through a quirk of fate I stumbled on the answer. The mystery is solved. I was
at a meeting of the Riverwalk advisory committee. A nice couple from Owego sat
next to me. They have a house on the river and do a lot of kayaking. I asked
them if they had been out lately. "No, we haven’t. How about you?" I
told them about my squirrel experience. "In fact, I concluded, the
squirrel hopped ashore near your house."
They both began to laugh. I didn't think they'd be able to stop. It was
like when you laugh in church; they couldn’t get it under control. Finally they
calmed down and the husband, wiping tears from his eyes, told me what was so
funny. He'd been trapping squirrels and transporting them across the river. He
caught nine so far this summer, but the squirrel population in his yard hadn’t
changed. He’d wondered if they were coming back via the Court Street Bridge. It
never crossed his mind that they might be swimming back. "The whole thing
makes sense now," he exclaimed.
I learned a good lesson. Just when you think you know everything,
something happens to show you how little you really do know. I didn't know
squirrels could swim, did you?
medical privacy irks the Old
Coot
Published 9/29/2004
I hate the medical privacy
regulations. I thought I was involved in a house closing the first time I
encountered the rules at my doctor’s office; I signed and initialed more forms
than when my wife and I bought our house. I had to sign the same stuff all over
again at the dentist, the skin specialist and the eye doctor. I probably should
have taken a lawyer with me. A million trees were cut down to make the “Notice
of Privacy Practices” booklet that medical providers are required by law to
give to their patients. The law, “Health Insurance Portability and
Accountability Act” was passed in 1996, but the privacy component went into
effect last year. The medical community refers to it as the HIPPA regulations.
They should call it the “Hippo” regulations, an animal that closely resembles
the enormity of the process.
I’m getting ready to make another doctor's appointment; first I have to
psych myself up. It's something I dread, not the examination, the periphery
stuff, the process I have to go through before I see the doctor. It starts with
the phone book, "What number should I call?” The listing in the Yellow
Pages offers 5 or 6 choices. I make my selection using the “Eeny, Meeny, Miney,
Moe” method. When the call goes through an answering machine confronts me with
a new dilemma, multiple choices, “What option should I pick?” I usually go
with, "stay on the line," because by the time I listen to all the
choices I can’t remember the one that fits my situation. This time it doesn't
matter. I need to talk to a real human; it’s the only way I can make sure the
doctor has the CAT scan on hand that he took of my neck last year.
The scan was taken because I'd complained of a neck ache; he ordered an
X-ray and a CAT scan. An X-ray technician called two weeks after the ordeal.
“The x-ray doesn't show any gross abnormalities for a person your age,"
she reported, in a bored monotone. "What does that mean," I asked? (I
hate it when they tell you your such & such is fine, for a person your
age.) "Pretend I'm 21; now tell me how bad it is," I responded, but
the technician would say no more; she would only relay the doctor's message,
not interpret it. "Well, what about the CAT scan," I asked. "I
don't know anything about a CAT scan," she replied, just the x-ray. You'll
have to call the doctor about that.
I tried; I really did, but I could never get through to him. It didn't
matter anyhow; I got a 2nd opinion in the locker room at the Binghamton YMCA. I
swim there a couple of times a week in an attempt to get the doctor to say,
"Your heart is as strong as a person half your age.” He never does. My
neck was sore all the time. I suspected a touch of arthritis, the degenerative
stuff us old coots get in our vertebrae; it usually starts in our lower backs
and works its way up. George, a fellow YMCA'er asked me why I only turned my
head to the right to take a breath when I swam. “That will give you a chronic
sore neck!” he advised. I took his advice. I changed my swimming style; the
neck ache went away. George didn't charge a cent.
It’s a good thing I have George, because even when I used e-mail to get
CAT scan results from the doctor I failed; the “Privacy” regulations wouldn’t
allow it. The doctor’s secretary responded to let me know that they couldn’t
send the results over the Internet until I came into the office and signed a
form and received a pass- word. I ran into the regulations yet again at the
pharmacy. I handed my prescription to the clerk and asked her to announce on
the loud speaker when it was ready; “I’ll be looking around at the junk in the
store.” "I'm sorry," she replied. "Someone will know that you
are getting a prescription and that violates your privacy rights."
"OK," I responded. When the prescription is ready, announce
that my cab is here. I'll know what you mean and my privacy won’t be
violated." She refused. Poor woman; she didn't know she was dealing with
an old coot. I said, "Fine," and then walked over to the pharmacist
area and yelled back to druggist, asking him if my prescription was ready. I
did this again in 30 seconds and then again after another half minute. He got
the message. "I'll have it announced on the loud speaker when your cab
arrives,” he yelled over to me, rolling his eyes and scurrying back to his
elevated platform behind the counter. I call it the "Pill Hill." I
can't figure out why they have to be two feet higher than the rest of us to
pour pills into a bottle. Maybe it's where the expression, "getting
high." comes from. It might be part of the privacy rules; it prevents anyone
from looking over their shoulders. I don’t know about you, but I don’t feel
more protected; I feel more in need of medical treatment, the kind where you
lie on the couch and tell the doctor what’s bothering you.
Old coot takes a dive.
published 10/06/2004
We closed our pool this week. The water temperature slipped below 70 and
was headed downhill fast. My wife stops going in when it drops to 80; my limit
is 72. Our son will swim when it's in the 60's. If his pals are around, he’ll
even go in when it’s in the 50’s. I miss the pool already. It’s kind of a magic
device that tells you things about people. Their approach to the water reveals
a lot about their personality. It will even tell you what they do for a living,
if you know the code.
For instance, some people dive right in. They don't test the water; they
don't ask, "How is it?" They walk to the edge, lean over and take the
plunge. This group is primarily made up of cops, firemen and nurses. Doctors
don't make the cut; they can't get in without asking questions about the
temperature, the chemical composition, the depth, the texture of the bottom,
etc.
People who dive in, but then break the surface in a loud scream are in
sales. They have to let everyone know how it felt; they can’t help themselves.
Some people ask a lot of questions about the temperature before they go
in: "Is it cold? Do you get used to it? Does it feel OK after you've been
in awhile?" They can't go in until they know exactly how they might react
to it. People in this group are teachers, lawyers and bank loan officers.
Another personality group enters the water in a calculated and
conservative manner. They start by sticking in a toe, and then the foot.
Eventually they bend over and get their hands wet and carefully splash water on
their bodies. When they’ve completed their “bird bath” they’re ready to take
the plunge. This group finds work as engineers or librarians, unless they go
through the process with their backs to the water or with their eyes closed.
Then you can find them working in administrative jobs: in schools, government
bureaucracies or with accounting firms.
People who manage to keep their hair dry when they swim are in a special
category altogether. They are the titans of business, the corporate “front
office” crowd. They get wet, but strive to maintain a businesslike image. Dry,
combed and styled hair is their substitute for the business suit.
People who stick in a toe, wave to everyone and then go back and sit in a
lounge chair make up the last group that I’ve been able to identify. When they
get home they tell everyone how great the water was, what fun. These people run
the government; they're the politicians.
It’s sad to acknowledge that the pool season is over. I won’t be able to
finish my analysis of pool personalities. Oh well, maybe next year.
Ps. In case you’re wondering how old coots enter a swimming pool, we dive
right in, no matter the temperature, in fact the colder the water the quicker
we get in. It’s not because we’re fearless or brave; we love the rush our
systems get from the shock of lowering our body temperature so fast. It speeds
up the flow of blood to our entire body. We feel like teenagers, if for only
minute. It’s a nice trip down memory lane. I wish I’d taken one last dive
before I fastened down the cover.
Old Coot goes on the dole
published 10/13/2004
I applied for social security the other day. It's something all old coots
do. I went in person; I thought it too important to do over the phone or on the
Internet. I was wrong.
It started the minute I entered the Federal building in Binghamton. You
have to enter through a revolving door. I don't like these things. I always get
whacked or pinched when I encounter one. This door was out of kilter; it
started hard and then wouldn't stop. It threw me into the lobby, the same way
that a bouncer tosses a troublemaker out the door. Two rumpled security guards
met me inside. "Where are you going?" one of them asked as he helped
me to my feet. "To the social security office," I replied.
"You'll have a long wait," he warned. I didn't care. I'd been
watching the government extract an unconscionable amount of money from my
paycheck since the early 60's. I could wait a little while to start the
payments going in the other direction. I was wrong.
The guard took my nap sack and put it through an X-ray machine. I wasn't
worried. It only contained my writing notebook and a few pens. It passed the
test and then it was my turn. I was directed through a metal detector. I made
it, in spite of the small jack knife and metal glass frames in my front pocket.
I entered the waiting room and settled myself into an orange vinyl chair in the
corner. The room was nearly full. An elderly woman leaned over and advised me
to go back and get a number. I'd walked right by the rack on the way in so I
went over and got one, number 16. I didn't care that it was so high; this was
an important event and I was eager for it to unfold. I didn’t mind that it
might take some time.
I took out my notebook and started writing; it was my article about
squirrels, the one about how they can swim. I wrote for twenty minutes,
glancing at the clock and my fellow citizens who were also there to face the
bureaucracy. We were a mixed bag. Some were old coots like me, anxious to sign
up for our government pension. Others were young people: getting a replacement
card because they'd lost theirs or applying for a death benefit for a relative
who had recently passed away. We were all in the same boat; we had to wait our turn.
Finally, one of the two clerks that serviced the room from behind bulletproof
glass, yelled out, "Number six." Nobody moved. She shouted it out
again and an old coot and his wife from the other side of the room stood up and
shuffled toward the teller window.
That's when I started to have misgivings about doing this in person.
"Number six, I said to myself. I've got number sixteen, ten to go and it
took twenty minutes to call one number." I looked around at my
surroundings. The door caught my eye first. It had a sign on it; everything in
a government office has a sign of some sort on it. This one said, "Social
Security - Visitors only, No Food or Beverage." They can't just identify
the room and let it go at that, they have to let you know they’re in charge.
There was a video camera in the corner of the room near the ceiling. They
must expect one of us to get irritated and cause an outburst. They want to get
it on film to assure a successful prosecution. I looked at the wall behind me;
it held an official government banner, “Social Security – Helping People Live
Better for 65 Years.” Otherwise, the place was bleak: green walls, granite
floors, a clock on one wall above a plastic rack of information booklets. I
didn’t feel “secure,” in spite of the proclamation on the banner at my back.
Number six and his wife finally made it to the teller. “I’m here to
collect my pension,” he announced. “What’s your social security number,”
replied the stone-faced clerk. He didn’t get past the first three numbers –
“007,” he said. Then his wife stepped in and told the clerk it was 077, not
007. That’s when I decided to pack it in. I knew I’d never get out of there. I
went home and signed up on the Internet; it took twenty minutes. My big day was
a flop.
It’s time to clean up our language.
published 10/20/2004
I’m sponsoring a new law. It will
mandate the removal of over-used, lame and worn out words and phrases. If
they’ve been in use for over five years they have to go. It’s time to clean
house; lets fill up the trash bin.
The first one that needs to go
is, “As we speak.” I’m so sick of watching some “suit” on TV say that the
problem is being worked on, “As we speak.” In the first place, WE aren’t
speaking, he is! We’re listening, and groaning. It’s been overdone; lets just
go back to saying, “Right now.”
“Been there, done that,” is the
next phrase that has got to go. Let’s “literally” put it in the trash bin and
put “literally” along side it in a two for one special. We can live without
them; we can simply say, “I know,” in place of, “Been there, done that.” If we
feel compelled to add more feeling we can drag out its equivalent from the
60’s, “I feel your pain.” And, “literally,” well that doesn’t need a
replacement. It adds nothing to a sentence; it is literally useless.
Here are a few more gems that need
disposal.
#1 – Window of opportunity – I vote for going back to, “It’s now
or never.”
#2
– Significant other – if
he really is significant you’d be
married to him, not struggling to find some way to describe the boob standing
next to you.
#3 – Soccer Moms – Politicians in Washington invented this one. I
vote to call women whose kids play soccer, mothers.
If we don’t, the next thing we know we’ll have a whole new list of
designations to keep track of: piano moms, football moms, video game moms, etc.
#4 – Siblings – I never knew a kid with siblings. All the ones I
grew up with had brothers or sisters. It’s bad enough when you hear some
professor type refer to children of the same parents as siblings, but when you
start to hear kids using the term on themselves it’s time to act. Get rid of it
fast!
SUV is another term invented by
the politicians in Washington. They use it to pit one part of society against
another: energy wasters versus the green crowd. Heck, most SUV people just buy
them to get around safely in the snow. They’re not making a political
statement; they’re not trying to harm the environment. Let’s go back to saying
they have a car with 4-wheel drive. Now, is that so bad?
There is a disconnect between
school officials and the public; a lot of it is caused by language differences.
We don’t know what the school people are talking about and they think we’re
stupid because we don’t get it. Interdisciplinary
is one of their favorites. If they just said that the 4th and 5th
grades will be together for a class or two, or that History and English will be
taught together, then we would get it. But instead, they use,
“Interdisciplinary,” and we roll our eyes and turn to each other with a look
that says, “What are they talking about?” Let’s toss interdisciplinary in the
trash.
My last nomination for the scrap
pile is “Weapons of mass destruction.
They should jail the person who came up with this one, right now, as we speak,
literally put him in the hoosegow. It’s
a nuclear bomb, a nuke; we all know it can cause mass destruction. It’s so
lame. If we don’t stop them, they’ll expand it. A gun will become a weapon of
selective destruction, a knife will become a weapon of pointed destruction and
a politician’s mouth will become a weapon of mass obstruction. Well, maybe we
should keep that last one around.
Don’t put the old coot on the
“no call” list!
Published 11/03/2004
The election is over; at least I assume it is. I don't know because I'm
writing this a few days beforehand. It might be like last time when the vote
count went on for weeks. Anyhow, the campaigning is finished, and thank
heavens! If I never see another political ad or hear a campaign promise I'll
reach nirvana. In 2002 the politicians passed a campaign financing law to
regulate campaigning, the McCain - Fiengold Bill. They got one provision of the
law backwards, the one that prevents us from running political ads 60 days
prior to the election. It's not the citizens who should be banned from the
airwaves it's the politicians. They should be gagged 60 days prior to Election
Day and if they have anything to say to us they should be forced to put it in
writing and send it to us via snail mail or e-mail. In addition, they should be
required to do their writing at a desk in a public school classroom under the
watchful eye of a proctor to make sure they aren’t cheating. We don’t want to
hear from a clever speechwriter or a campaign spinner. We want to know what’s
on the candidate’s mind.
This would improve the election process over the onslaught of campaign
ads we are now forced to endure. Most ads violate the truth in advertising
regulations, though only businesses are subject to the Regs; the politicians
made themselves exempt. They do this with a lot of the laws they pass. For
example, United States Congressmen can not be charged with sexual harassment by
their employees. They had to exempt themselves from harassment laws; half of
them would be in jail if they didn’t.
They're not subject to truth in advertising regulations so they promise
us whatever they think we might swallow. It gets worse every year. This year,
in addition to the usual promises of world peace and prosperity, they even went
so far as to promise to cure cancer, Alzheimer’s disease, Parkinson’s disease,
spinal cord injuries and a whole slew of other debilitating conditions.
A few years ago they weren't so adventurous. They only promised to stop
salesmen from calling us on the phone. They thought we were too weak and stupid
to handle the gyrations of our free enterprise system; we didn't know how to
say no. Of course the calls still come, in spite of the new regulations and the
millions of people who signed up to be placed on a "No Call List."
They should have asked an old coot for help, not some Washington DC
slickmeister. An old coot could have helped the public get rid of unwelcome
sales calls with out a whole new set of federal regulations.
For example, we would have told you to tell the telemarketer to hang on a
second, that you’ll be right back, when you get caught by one on the phone.
Then put the receiver down and go do something. When you get back the sales rep
will be gone. Most of them have a sign on their desk that says, "Time is
money." They’ll try someone else. Another good one is to just say,
"I'm tied up right now; Give me your home number and I'll call you back.
When do you sit down to dinner"? My favorite is to fake a foreign
language. "Heelooo! I canna geet
wha you talkin man; No speaka da Englash." It's the same thing you should
do when people running for office ask what they can do for you. Look them dead
in the eye and say, "No speaka da bull!"
THE BIG LIE – “FAST FOOD”
First Published in “The Old
Coot Essays” 2001
Republished in the Courier
12/18/2002
A Few weeks ago I took three of
my grandchildren, Jake –5, Hannah- 3 and Abby – 2, to MacDonald’s for lunch. It
was the day Jake and Hannah’s sister Callie was born; my part in the process
was to watch the kids while my daughter, Wendy, was at the hospital. I sat at
the table trying to entertain the antsy threesome while Abby’s mother, Kelly
(my 2nd daughter), waited in line for a “fast food” order. It was
the longest thirty minutes of my life. I like going to MacDonald’s, Burger King,
Wendy’s and all the rest of the fast food restaurants, but I think it’s time
that they admit the obvious and stop referring to themselves as “fast.” Fast
applies to the service at Harris’s Diner; a small locally owned restaurant,
housed in a cramped Quonset hut next to the fire station in Owego. It does not
provide any customer parking, a special menu items for kid nor an indoor
playground, yet it beats the pants off the international fast food chains.
I’m not a regular at Sam Harris’s
diner; I only stop by every week or so for breakfast. I wander in at 6 am,
though it doesn’t open until 7. The lights are down low and Sam isn’t around,
but a few customers are hanging out at the counter and at tables in the back,
drinking coffee, shooting the breeze and reading the paper. The coffee urns are
full. The “regulars” made it. At 6:45 Sam comes in, trades insults with a few
of the rabble and goes in the back room to do some prep work. I sit at the
counter with a choice seat near the grill, a cup of coffee before me, having
been served by one of the gracious regulars. Sam flicks on the lights and fires
up the grill. He starts things in motion by piling on a mountain of home fries
and a dozen strips of bacon. He knows what the regulars want. Hazel, Sam’s faithful
waitress, comes in at seven on the dot, ready to wait tables and bus the dirty
dishes, a tough job for a gal well past retirement age, but one she does with
class and a smile.
I sit with my coffee and watch
the show. I don’t think there is anything more entertaining than a good grill
man, and Sam is one of the best. He’s cracking eggs with one hand, flipping
pancakes with the other and discussing last night’s Yankee game with a customer
across the room. More “regulars” stream in, trade insults back and forth, head
for the coffee pot behind the counter and help themselves, some using their
very own personalized cups stored on a shelf above the pot. Hazel glides around
exchanging pleasantries and taking orders, but Sam takes mine since I’m sitting
right near his work area. The average time between giving your order and
getting it is less than five minutes. In my case, sitting at the counter, I get
my two eggs over light, home fries, ham and toast in just three minutes. This,
is fast food. Hazel drops of the check when the food is served. You never have
to wait for her to get around to it like in most restaurants. A pile of bills
and change lie in a heap next to the cash register. Customers settle up
themselves, making change and leaving the meal ticket as they pass the register
on their way out. The “regulars” even go so far as to open Sam’s cash register
when they can’t make correct change from the pile of cash on the counter. It
sure beats watching a corporate cloned “co-worker” at MacDonald’s scanning a computerized
cash register for a picture of French fries so he can tally up your order.
Yes, I definitely think we should
stop referring to purveyors of food cooked an hour earlier and kept warm, as
the fast food industry. We should call them the “warmed up leftover” industry.
I guess I think that because I’m just an old coot.
Origins
I’m an old coot. I can’t escape it.
It seems like only yesterday I was 17; today I’m sliding out of control toward
65. I yell at the TV, swear at the paper and growl at store clerks. Somebody’s
got to point out the errors of well-intentioned social meddlers; It might as
well be me. Be careful as you read these essays, you may find you agree with me
and inadvertently discover an ugly truth, that you’re an old coot too.
Merlin
Lessler
(The Old Coot)